i have to have both... if im doing all the talking i feel like im controlling stuff and i dont like that... but i do like to talk, so just listening can be hard too.. but it is nice to just listen sometimes
I'm definitely a listener. I'm constantly paying attention to people talking whether it's at a meal or during class. I think it's due to my quiet persona. However, I need to contribute more if I don't want to look like someone who never talks.
I'm a listener. Seems like people are always coming to me with problems they seem to be having or if they just want someone to be sympathetic or they want someone to be enthusiastic about something. lol. So yeah, I guess I'm a listener. Plus, if I'm in a large crowd of people or something, I'm most likely listening to the conversations going on around me more so than participating in them. Part of my shyness I guess. hehe. But if you want my opinion or there's a subject I like talking about, then I can be a talker as well. Mostly a listener though.
With some friends I can't even get a word in and I have to be an active listener.
With some others, they just want to hear me tell them funny, long-winded true stories. Like at one of my places of work, everyone loved hearing about what I got up to as I seemed to experience or witness some seriously wierd and funny things on a daily basis. They wanted me to even write a book about these things.
At the moment, the people I spend the most time with are 50/50 with me on the talking and listening.
With men I am dating...I tend to talk more than they do by about 20%.