- Oct 21, 2018
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I'm not sure if this is the place to put this, but I just need to unload.
I've been a part of my church for nearly twelve years now. Up until recently, I've felt stuck there because my family is in the leadership of the church and I myself am in the worship team. I have no problems with that. It's the youth ministry of our church that I have problems with.
I'm a part of the young adult group, which is a fairly new group. It started last summer and when it was formed, I was really excited. I was hopeful that this group would be challenging and would help me grow in Christ. I wanted to be pushed, I wanted to expand my knowledge and find God on a more intimate level. That's what Bible study is for, right? The person who started this group seemed to share my vision and at first, it was headed in a good direction.
But if you've seen any of my posts lately, you know that it no longer is going where I thought it would. Apparently the members of this group are not sharing my vision. They don't want to grow. They seem to be comfortable with just coasting along at their current level. This bothers me greatly. There comes a point when, especially as young adults, we need to step t of the comfort zone and move from milk to solid food. There is no fire, no passion in this group. I've expressed this multiple times to multiple people in the group and the responses were very disheartening. I am starving over here, desperate for more, desperate to dig into the Bible and know God more. But they just aren't. And it's so frustrating.
Another issue I've had with this group is that there's no sense of community. I am the only consistently attending woman at this point. There are two other girls who show up when they can but otherwise it's just me surrounded by men. Which was fine at first. I've known these boys for years, as we grew up in the youth group together. But I started to realize that there's just no connection between any of us, not on a deeper level where it needs to be. These people call themselves my friends but I can't depend on any of them. I was going through some stuff, which the leader of the group was aware of. When I told him to pray, he said he would. It's been weeks and he hasn't checked back with me. He hasn't asked if everything is better now. I told the group I couldn't make it to our last meeting because of an emergency with my dog and none of them reached out to see what was wrong or offered to pray. The leader of the group was having a family crisis and his brother was in the hospital. I told him I would be praying and asked him to keep me updated. He said he would. I only found out that his brother was out of the hospital through Facebook. He still hasn't told me that his brother is okay. If I hadn't seen that Facebook post, I'd still be praying!
Sometimes I feel like I'm asking too much but I know I'm not. These people just don't care on the level that I feel they need to. They don't care about each other. Our group is just for fun and games and minimal learning. When they leave after we meet, they forget about each other. There's no community, no love, no support, no dependability. And most of all, there's no growth.
I've tried to make it work but I'm so exhausted. I feel God has finally given me the green light and is nudging me to find another group outside of my church. And I seriously hope that I can find one that is willing and ready to grow in Christ, has a passion to serve him, and cares about its members. Because that is what I'm dying for.
Mostly this was just a vent post but I do want to ask, has anyone else experienced this? Is anyone else seeing that their youth just don't care?
I've been a part of my church for nearly twelve years now. Up until recently, I've felt stuck there because my family is in the leadership of the church and I myself am in the worship team. I have no problems with that. It's the youth ministry of our church that I have problems with.
I'm a part of the young adult group, which is a fairly new group. It started last summer and when it was formed, I was really excited. I was hopeful that this group would be challenging and would help me grow in Christ. I wanted to be pushed, I wanted to expand my knowledge and find God on a more intimate level. That's what Bible study is for, right? The person who started this group seemed to share my vision and at first, it was headed in a good direction.
But if you've seen any of my posts lately, you know that it no longer is going where I thought it would. Apparently the members of this group are not sharing my vision. They don't want to grow. They seem to be comfortable with just coasting along at their current level. This bothers me greatly. There comes a point when, especially as young adults, we need to step t of the comfort zone and move from milk to solid food. There is no fire, no passion in this group. I've expressed this multiple times to multiple people in the group and the responses were very disheartening. I am starving over here, desperate for more, desperate to dig into the Bible and know God more. But they just aren't. And it's so frustrating.
Another issue I've had with this group is that there's no sense of community. I am the only consistently attending woman at this point. There are two other girls who show up when they can but otherwise it's just me surrounded by men. Which was fine at first. I've known these boys for years, as we grew up in the youth group together. But I started to realize that there's just no connection between any of us, not on a deeper level where it needs to be. These people call themselves my friends but I can't depend on any of them. I was going through some stuff, which the leader of the group was aware of. When I told him to pray, he said he would. It's been weeks and he hasn't checked back with me. He hasn't asked if everything is better now. I told the group I couldn't make it to our last meeting because of an emergency with my dog and none of them reached out to see what was wrong or offered to pray. The leader of the group was having a family crisis and his brother was in the hospital. I told him I would be praying and asked him to keep me updated. He said he would. I only found out that his brother was out of the hospital through Facebook. He still hasn't told me that his brother is okay. If I hadn't seen that Facebook post, I'd still be praying!
Sometimes I feel like I'm asking too much but I know I'm not. These people just don't care on the level that I feel they need to. They don't care about each other. Our group is just for fun and games and minimal learning. When they leave after we meet, they forget about each other. There's no community, no love, no support, no dependability. And most of all, there's no growth.
I've tried to make it work but I'm so exhausted. I feel God has finally given me the green light and is nudging me to find another group outside of my church. And I seriously hope that I can find one that is willing and ready to grow in Christ, has a passion to serve him, and cares about its members. Because that is what I'm dying for.
Mostly this was just a vent post but I do want to ask, has anyone else experienced this? Is anyone else seeing that their youth just don't care?