Heavenly Mother is exalted. She can't be his wife if she isn't exalted. Eternal life, or exaltation, is to live in God's presence....
Those who inherit the celestial kingdom are gods, even the sons of God,
D&C 76:50, 58.
Then shall they be gods, because they have all power,
D&C 132:20.
Women can inherit the celestial kingdom.
Mormonism is a puzzle:
I (and many others of my fellow Mormons who are women) would refute the charge of sexism. While it is true that women cannot hold certain "callings" or responsibilities (i.e. bishops, stake presidents, etc.), they can and do serve in many leadership positions, even on the world-wide level. It's also true that there are callings in the church that men cannot hold. Every Sunday I hear a sermon (talk) by a female member of the congregation. I (a man) have even been in a calling where I reported directly to a female "superior" (if there were such a thing in the church). In Mormonism, men and women are considered equals before God.
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You can be qualified and hired as a religion professor at Brigham Young University, and yet teach:
"Women are queens and priestesses but not gods. The Godhead, the 'Presidency of Heaven,' is a presidency of three male deities, similar to a stake presidency whose members each have wives who are responsible for domestic religious education but not ecclesiastical functions."
- Rodney Turner, retired BYU religion professor, Sunstone Panel Discussion, September 7, 1991.
“We don't hear about Heavenly Mother because she is only one of many wives of god.”
- Sister Maxine Hanks, Women and Authority, Ch.11, p.251
Full text of "Women and Authority: Re-emerging Mormon Feminism"
Context of Maxine Hanks' quote:
PERSONAL DISCOURSE ON GOD THE MOTHER
An even more troublesome silencer is the implication that by
such discussion we may reveal the family secret of polygamy, and we
may find out more than we care to know: There could be several
mothers in the father’s harem. “We don’t hear about Heavenly
Mother because she is only one of many wives of god.”
Similarly, other women are wary of speaking of God the Mother
because men have already used her image to subordinate women, “to
perpetuate the patriarchal system.” “The men of the Mormon church
have subjugated Mother in Heaven to the same position as the other
women in the church.” Another woman writes that to speak of her
Mother in Heaven would be like “casting my pearls before swine.”
In contrast, one woman writes that she feels the silence surrounding
the mother god is sacred and in harmony with her inner,
intuitive workings: “I’ve never felt it right or had the need to pray
in public church to her. Her work is so inner and so much seems
to be done in sacred silence.”
Aside from our own silence on the topic is God the Mother’s
silence. One woman uses the scripture “Behold I stand at the door
and knock” to refer to God the Mother waiting only for us to open
the door. Another woman, dismissing the need to wait for male
authorities, or even for God the Father to speak, writes: “God the
Mother speaks for herself and she does speak to us, but we do not
listen.” Another woman echoes this: “I also sensed that she eagerly
awaits her place in our spiritual lives. She is there but only those
who ask will know it.” Yet another woman writes: “It is my
experience that if we seek her, she will nurture us.”
For some, connecting with the powerful creative energy of God
the Mother is an encounter with god the unspeakable, the indescrib-
able, because the experience cannot be transliterated into words. We
lack stories, models, and words to describe our experiences, so we
translate them into a language with images and words created for
the most part by men to describe male experience.
Language
These stories are not traditional testimonies because they con-
tain no language of exhortation or persuasion. They emanate from
a personal perspective rather than an orthodox, prescriptive perspec-
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MARTHA PIERCE
tive. The focus is on truth-telling. The women say: “This is what
happened to me.” “This is what I think.” “This is my truth.” They
do not say, “Believe as I do” or even “Believe me.”
The women who write these stories acknowledge the difficulty
of singing their song in a strange tongue. In this case the difficulty
is singing the song of the Mother in the language of the fathers. As
french feminist Monique Wittig wrote: “The language you speak is
made up of words that are killing you.”
Full text of "Women and Authority: Re-emerging Mormon Feminism"