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This is for those who have them. Me personally, I feel I'm in the middle. I feel I could probably live a happy life without a child...but then I wonder sometimes what if I just wake up and I'm 30 and I want a child but its too late.
Some say you always know, like I know without a doubt I want to get married ans I will be married; I have so much faith that I will be married some day that doubt doesnt cross my mind . I just know it will happen, ssme for being an artist.
Now with kids, I go either way. Most times when I'm in a line at a store and witness children screaming and behaving unruly that's enough of a turn off to make me say no forever lol. I'm well aware that parenthood doesnt consist of those picture perfect Kodak moments those are far and few in between... And honestly if I ever did have a child I would just have one and only one.
That's all I have strength for.
So I guess I'm asking ...is parenthood something you have to always know you want; When I asked my mom she said she always knew and always wanted kids and knew she was gonna have them.
Me, I'm not so sure...there's a part of having kids that scares me so much ,so much pressure to make sure theyre well equipped for the world, are productive citizens of society and have grounded sense of self. I dont know sometimes I dont know , all the things I listed above is a lot of pressure...
There's no manual when it comes to raising kids and you worry endlessly. My main worry is that... I have anxiety and slight depression and I would hate to pass that down to them...
So idk.... Is okay to be uncertain? ( not having kids any time soon...just posing a question) will your mind change after theyre here ?
Thank you for your answers in advanced.
Some say you always know, like I know without a doubt I want to get married ans I will be married; I have so much faith that I will be married some day that doubt doesnt cross my mind . I just know it will happen, ssme for being an artist.
Now with kids, I go either way. Most times when I'm in a line at a store and witness children screaming and behaving unruly that's enough of a turn off to make me say no forever lol. I'm well aware that parenthood doesnt consist of those picture perfect Kodak moments those are far and few in between... And honestly if I ever did have a child I would just have one and only one.
That's all I have strength for.
So I guess I'm asking ...is parenthood something you have to always know you want; When I asked my mom she said she always knew and always wanted kids and knew she was gonna have them.
Me, I'm not so sure...there's a part of having kids that scares me so much ,so much pressure to make sure theyre well equipped for the world, are productive citizens of society and have grounded sense of self. I dont know sometimes I dont know , all the things I listed above is a lot of pressure...
There's no manual when it comes to raising kids and you worry endlessly. My main worry is that... I have anxiety and slight depression and I would hate to pass that down to them...
So idk.... Is okay to be uncertain? ( not having kids any time soon...just posing a question) will your mind change after theyre here ?
Thank you for your answers in advanced.