Kissing when not in a relationship - is it wrong/sin?

[Socktastic]

What a strange answer. On one hand you want to give the impression that you think "whatever floats their boat" is fine, yet on the other hand you keep repeating how you would never do such "swapping of saliva" and feel such a need as it's "not your style". That seems pretty judgmental to me. Do you struggle with multiple personalities?

It is.
I do.
I have personal hangups, not Biblical ones.

 

[Reminisce]

It is.
I do.
I have personal hangups, not Biblical ones.

Ok. That explains it.

Thanks for clearing that up.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

It is.
I do.
I have personal hangups, not Biblical ones.

I see... undt how does zat make you feel?

 

[Socktastic]

Like this could become quite amusing if played out long enough.

 

[Reminisce]

Well good luck with that!

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Like this could become quite amusing if played out long enough.

Interesting, psychological evaluations must be a bit of your specialty eh?

And you must be able to have people fall for you like a spoon full of sugar.

 

[Socktastic]

I'm curious Reminisce . What are your thoughts on the subject?
Do you feel it is sinful, or that it is an acceptable extension of mutual desire?

Interesting, psychological evaluations must be a bit of your specialty eh?

And you must be able to have people fall for you like a spoon full of sugar.

I trap them in honey most of the time.

 

[Reminisce]

I'm curious. What are your thoughts on the subject?
Do you feel it is sinful, or that it is an acceptable extension of mutual desire?

Me? I think it depends. If there's real feelings involved and real passion and desire, I think it can be defended. But then again, I'm too liberal for this forum.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

I trap them in honey most of the time.

I noticed, but I think you already knew that.

 

[Socktastic]

Me? I think it depends. If there's real feelings involved and real passion and desire, I think it can be defended. But then again, I'm too liberal for this forum.

How would one distinguish between real feelings and fleeting lust?
I do not think you are too liberal for the forum - there are plenty who would say kissing in such situations is fine. Most who wish to save kissing for marriage do not do so out of Biblical obligation but a desire to save that first kiss for the whole "kiss the bride" moment. At least that's what i've gleaned from similar topics.

 

[Reminisce]

How would one distinguish between real feelings and fleeting lust?
I do not think you are too liberal for the forum - there are plenty who would say kissing in such situations is fine. Most who wish to save kissing for marriage do not do so out of Biblical obligation but a desire to save that first kiss for the whole "kiss the bride" moment. At least that's what i've gleaned from similar topics.

As in "this is the guy for me" type of feelings? But I agree, it can be hard to distinguish those in the heat of the moment.

I feel that way on the topic of sex too, that if (in a relationship), the feelings and passion are there, then people are free to do whatever they feel is right. That makes me controversial around here and too liberal for this forum.

 

[Mela Monkey]

I dunno if i'd call it sinful, but i'm not even going to kiss my wife until the day we get married, and I wouldn't want to kiss any other women

even though it may not be considered this by many people, I consider kissing to be a very intimate thing .. something that should only be shared with someone very special

 

[redblue22]

If it is all so fine, then perhaps two women kissing is ok, and two men kissing is ok. Afterall, everyone is just friends and it isn't about sex..... right?

Everything in my history has taught me that kissing as friends means leading to something more. In an effort to curb this I just say that I'm not ready for that kind of relationship and so don't kiss. But then women get angry because they want the kissing and they feel it is time to do so and lead to more.

As I type this I'm realizing that I'm a pretty weird guy with a weird history. hmm. I don't know how I feel about that. Anyway, I get tired of people trying to get me into a relationship or sex or whatever else they want from me.

 

[Marycita]

I think people should be in a relationship and really care about each other before they kiss.

I'm not talking about myself, ok? I don't go around kissing random men, either. I was asking because I can't really understand how that would be any more wrong than doing it IN a relationship.

I have a question..and it's going to seem really random

What is your native language?

As in "this is the guy for me" type of feelings? But I agree, it can be hard to distinguish those in the heat of the moment.

I feel that way on the topic of sex too, that if (in a relationship), the feelings and passion are there, then people are free to do whatever they feel is right. That makes me controversial around here and too liberal for this forum.

That's not only liberal...it's unbiblical

And I would tell anyone that who stated such a thing, so please don't take it as I'm trying to be rude to you. I'm more so just trying to correct you.

 

[Socktastic]

As in "this is the guy for me" type of feelings? But I agree, it can be hard to distinguish those in the heat of the moment.

I feel that way on the topic of sex too, that if (in a relationship), the feelings and passion are there, then people are free to do whatever they feel is right. That makes me controversial around here and too liberal for this forum.

Now you see, I agree individuals should feel free to do whatever they feel is right. I also think that depending on their religious beliefs they should look to scripture and ask themselves whether their actions are compatible with how we are guided to live. Each will be measured against their own sins, so they must seek to understand the scriptural stance on what they are doing and be at peace with that.

The issue with such a stance is rarely that it is too liberal, but that there is a lack of scripture that can be brought up to support it. Yes, people are free to do what they wish, but if those people are Christian and as such bound to following the guidelines laid out within the Bible should they do whatever feels right if "right" contradicts scripture?

 

[Reminisce]

I have a question..and it's going to seem really random

What is your native language?

How is that relevant? I speak four languages. Norwegian is native, then English, then l'uganda, then swahili. Why?

 

[Reminisce]

My views will probably be my downfall soon on this forum, but at least no one can say I wasn't honest...

 

[Socktastic]

Why should your views be your downfall? They are your views. Even if they are in disagreement with the majority and seen to be clashing with the conventional view if they are expressed respectfully and without regret then there should be no downfall.

Downfalls come when people forget their manners.

 

[Marycita]

How is that relevant? I speak four languages. Norwegian is native, then English, then l'uganda, then swahili. Why?

Ahh so English is not your native then?

I was just wondering...because if you haven't been speaking English your whole life, I was wondering if that could be part of the reason you think people are talking directly towards you, and therefore part of the reason you think people are being rude to you...since English can be confusing sometimes (ie - with you singular versus you plural/general)

Just a thought I had, so I thought I'd ask

 

[Schneiderman]

I'm gonna put forth my personal view on the OP:

(and I am talking about "romantic" kisses, not friendly ones)

IMO kissing in a relationship is fine. That's the world I was raised in. I was really surprised when I heard that there are people who don't kiss- or, at least, plan on not kissing- until marriage. While I like that idea, I don't think I could live up to it.

Outside of a relationship though, I am against it. I'm not interested in it, and I'm not interested in dating a girl who ever made a habit of kissing random people, such as at parties or in a club or whatever.

For me, if you are married or in a relationship, kissing someone else is cheating- so kissing random people while not in a relationship is similarly distasteful.