charsan
Charismatic Episcopal Church
- Jul 12, 2019
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courting works just not when most of the culture works against it (and that's currently how it is). when you are doing the thing no one else is doing and everyone is asking why then it's not going to work because no one is helping you and you're on your own.
Courting works in systems when you marry you live with your parents and the mother teaches the girl how to be a wife and the father teaches the boy... etc. It depends on this sort of passing the torch, apprenticeship teaching model but if you marry someone you don't know then get thrown into real life that you also don't know there's going to be a lot of stressors which cause's withdrawal from whatever has changed (ie. new spouse)
Young adults are also not as prepared for life as they used to be, this is the result of our over-emphasis of education and career and changing dynamics of culture of what constitutes of functioning and independent. The result is this peter-pan syndrome where kids never grow up (or at least take a long time to). There are many cases of only partially independent late 20 yr olds because they are still in school and are not ready yet to start a career. And our culture doesn't release kids into marriage until their school is done and even until they have started a career which can easily put them in their late 20's and even early 30's. This is why people are living together before marriage, sex and playing marriage because of our high demands on being independent is simply too long and unrealistic to wait.
This is also not a healthy system for young marriage when you are 18, 19, 20 etc... because you're still a kid and probably don't even know how to pay for a water bill or do groceries, the result is 2 kids getting married on ideals but no experience or training of life (courting kind of depends on 2 people that are already trained for life). Christian parents need to be very intentional to prepare their kids for the complexities of living in our culture so they can cope with an earlier marriage, even financial support or living with their parents. Our culture has shifted away so much from Christian values of marriage that it has actually created systems to counter them.
either we promote sex before marriage because it's the only way it works if we follow the demands of our culture (or we ban it and it happens aways) or we promote early marriage and prepare our kids for marriage early on but also be available to help them to slowly prepare them.
Spot on, both posts. Kids are not taught life
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