Kids are gross - Rant

[JAM2b]

It is also completely possible to discuss a topic without telling the OP what to do, or criticising what they have already done. Just talk about it in general terms, or share your experience without an air of "you should be like me; do what I do."

 

[Hammster]

In my opinion parents have the right to rant and vent as much as they need to.

Parenting is one of the hardest jobs in the world.

And what IS it about boys and bathrooms? Their bathrooms are the naaaaaastiest ever LOL!

God BLESS all the parents.

Not my boys. Not even the 5 year old. We train them until we like them.

 

[Hammster]

I tried something similar to that, by explaining that I wasn't wanting advice, and I got a passive aggressive response from you. And you continue to try telling me what to do, by telling me how I should have responded. And how do I "move on" when the thread is still active and it's still being discussed? It would be rude and flakey of me if I "moved on" from a thread I started.

I guess I missed the “thank you” part.

 

[brinny]

Not my boys. Not even the 5 year old. We train them until we like them.

LOL!

 

[JAM2b]

Why would I say "thank you" for unfair judgement and unwanted advice? Explaining my position was my attempt to be polite. To say "thank you" would have been dishonest and manipulative.

You're still subtly trying to tell me what to do, by pointing out I did not respond the way you want.

 

[Hammster]

Why would I say "thank you" for unfair judgement and unwanted advice? Explaining my position was my attempt to be polite.

There was no judgement. So I apologize if you thought there was. Sometimes internet communication does not translate in the best manner.

 

[Hammster]

LOL!

We laugh now. But it wasn’t always easy. It stinks being unpopular with your kids.

 

[brinny]

We laugh now. But it wasn’t always easy. It stinks being unpopular with your kids.

I agree.

You gotta admit, however, that you post about disciplining your kids till you "like" them was quite humorous.

And i agree that all parents run the risk of being unpopular with their kids. It's par for the course.

Being a parent is the hardest and most thankless job in the world.

 

[JAM2b]

Telling me that the consequences for my children were not severe enough, especially not knowing everything there is to know about it, is judgement. You are criticizing my parenting, without adequate details.

I get being frustrated when someone asks for advice and rejects it because you answered without them being open enough to give the information needed. But I was not asking for advice. I was just explaining an issue and getting it off my chest, hoping someone else would understand what it feels like or would need to feel free to express it themselves.

 

[JAM2b]

If you need to rant and not want opinions or stories from others to relate,

I don't mind discussing the topic in general, and welcome other people sharing their experiences. What I was not looking for was advice, or for my parenting practices to be critiqued. I thought it would generate a discussion where people could open up and express themselves. I never expected to be attacked as an incompetent disciplinarian.

 

[Hammster]

I agree.

You gotta admit, however, that you post about disciplining your kids till you "like" them was quite humorous.

And i agree that all parents run the risk of being unpopular with their kids. It's par for the course.

Being a parent is the hardest and most thankless job in the world.

The humor was intended. However, it’s true. If they aren’t doing what you think is right, correct it with whatever means necessary. If I can’t enjoy my kids, why would someone else? I’ve had similar situations with my kids, boys and girls, and you just have to make it so that they hate the consequences more than they like the behavior.

 

[brinny]

The humor was intended. However, it’s true. If they aren’t doing what you think is right, correct it with whatever means necessary. If I can’t enjoy my kids, why would someone else? I’ve had similar situations with my kids, boys and girls, and you just have to make it so that they hate the consequences more than they like the behavior.

I agree, however, as a single parent, i've needed to rant and vent many many times as an outlet, simply because parenting is HARD, even for two parents. That's why i welcomed working on a Stress line for parents and why i counseled (in person) many stressed moms who were ready to pull their hair out.

And bathrooms, it's soooo true, especially when boys get older, that they leave their bathrooms in the condition of a toxic nuclear wasteland.

 

[JAM2b]

And bathrooms, it's soooo true, especially when boys get older, that they leave their bathrooms in the condition of a toxic nuclear wasteland.

It's like a biological war zone. Bleach is my friend.

 

[brinny]

It's like a biological war zone. Bleach is my friend.

LOL!

It IS. Literally.

 

[Hammster]

I agree, however, as a single parent, i've needed to rant and vent many many times as an outlet, simply because parenting is HARD, even for two parents. That's why i welcomed working on a Stress line for parents and why i counseled (in person) many stressed moms who were ready to pull their hair out.

And bathrooms, it's soooo true, especially when boys get older, that they leave their bathrooms in the condition of a toxic nuclear wasteland.

Still, not true for my boys. Took work early on.

 

[brinny]

Still, not true for my boys. Took work early on.

'Tis good to have two parents working as a team, yes?

 

[JAM2b]

brinny, you're an angel.

and your socks make me smile.

 

[brinny]

brinny, you're an angel.

and your socks make me smile.

Awww thanks.....i've been there.....venting has been/is my lifeline, many many times...

hahahaaa warm feets are happy feets

 

[SkyWriting]

However, after 19 years of being a mom to these guys, I'm pretty tired of being disgusted.

18 years is your legal maximum, for the kids. For your husband, you need to change.
You can't force him to. But your attitude in under your control.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

There are consequences, and I spent years making them go back and clean it up. Nothing ever changed.

They shouldnt be teens and still doing that though... Very odd to me. However I do understand how draining children can be...for that reason alone...how taxing kids can be emotionally,physically and financially...I choose not to have them. Because despite what many think, caring for children doesnt stop at 18...not if youre a good parent.. Its a life long obligation.