just diognised Aspergeous today. frightened questions help

[little1]

Hello people,
My psychiatrist made me go see a specialist dr who works with trauma because I self harmed after being clean for 6-8 months. She was very kind and really connected with me which was special and she has a therapy dog.
Ive been diagnosed with PTSD and DID in the past and I am on full time disability with my husband as my carer. or umm he helps me stay safe and do life.
She explained I have PTSD but she thinks my main core thing is Aspergeous.
I'm a little upset. I realy value kindness and gentalness and other people. I'm overly sensitive to other people sometimes and get a bit exhausted and need to sleep a lot. I'm not real great with friendships I guess
do asbergeous people necessarily find it hard to read emotions? and smart?
cause they are the two I don't relate too.
I'm not smart and I visually read emotions well. or umm feel them . I feel them well?

if I tick all the other aspergeous boxes does it matter that I don't tick those two.
I'm excellent connecting 1 on 1 just not in a group.

they want me to go back in a few days for more therapy.

 

[Dylan the Black]

Hello! I saw your question and the lack of replies and made an account to see if I could help.

I have been diagnosed with Asperger's as well. You don't need to have all symptoms to qualify, nor do they have to be particularly intense. I get along with people just fine (outside of HUGE opening day style crowds), I just prefer to stay out of large groups. Intelligence for people with Asperger's usually sits anywhere from average to above-average. Also, having Asperger's doesn't mean not caring about people, it just means seeming a little awkward when you do it lol! In fact, I'm pursuing a career in psychology because I care so much about other's well being. As for reading emotions, I don't have a problem personally but some do. Mostly Aspies have problems with being rude without realizing it, but even that can vary.

You should have nothing to about. People with Asperger's live perfectly normal lives regardless, so if anything knowing should make life easier to understand.

Good luck, and sorry for the long post!
Dylan

 

[little1]

Hello! I saw your question and the lack of replies and made an account to see if I could help.

I have been diagnosed with Asperger's as well. You don't need to have all symptoms to qualify, nor do they have to be particularly intense. I get along with people just fine (outside of HUGE opening day style crowds), I just prefer to stay out of large groups. Intelligence for people with Asperger's usually sits anywhere from average to above-average. Also, having Asperger's doesn't mean not caring about people, it just means seeming a little awkward when you do it lol! In fact, I'm pursuing a career in psychology because I care so much about other's well being. As for reading emotions, I don't have a problem personally but some do. Mostly Aspies have problems with being rude without realizing it, but even that can vary.

You should have nothing to about. People with Asperger's live perfectly normal lives regardless, so if anything knowing should make life easier to understand.

Good luck, and sorry for the long post!
Dylan

Thankyou for replying YOU ARE KIND
I was sad I had no replyes but you encouraged me.

I'm encouraged you want to be a psychologist. !! We need good ones who understand..

 

[Larniavc]

I would agree with everything Dylan said.

Every person is on the autistic spectrum to some extent and we all have some form of expression of the symptoms people normally associate with ASD and this can make some parts of life harder than others; but not impossibly so.

All the best.

 

[LiljaLi]

I realy value kindness and gentalness and other people. I'm overly sensitive to other people sometimes and get a bit exhausted and need to sleep a lot. I'm not real great with friendships I guess
do asbergeous people necessarily find it hard to read emotions? and smart?
cause they are the two I don't relate too.
I'm not smart and I visually read emotions well. or umm feel them . I feel them well?

Well, that sounds a lot like me and I have aspergers syndrome! I think that I'm particularly good at reading emotions, or sometimes I think that I actually can FEEL the emotions that the person next to me has (really can't explain that, but maybe it has to do with the fact that I am sensitive to all things, smell, sound, taste, light etc). But emotions are complicated, although I can feel emotions, people tend to act and say things that conflict with the emotion that I sense, and then I get confused and don't understand a thing. Or maybe I just think that I am good at reading emotions, when I'm in fact terrible at it haha

You also asked about being smart. I think that I'm above average in some areas, and in others I struggle more than others, so maybe intelligence and emotions are two areas that are complex for people with aspergers. Never the less, I hope that you come to terms with your diagnosis, having aspergers also comes with many advantages so be proud

 

[Lybrah]

Do people with Aspergers usually find it difficult to get married?

 

[WilliamBo]

Hello people,
My psychiatrist made me go see a specialist dr who works with trauma because I self harmed after being clean for 6-8 months. She was very kind and really connected with me which was special and she has a therapy dog.
Ive been diagnosed with PTSD and DID in the past and I am on full time disability with my husband as my carer. or umm he helps me stay safe and do life.
She explained I have PTSD but she thinks my main core thing is Aspergeous.
I'm a little upset. I realy value kindness and gentalness and other people. I'm overly sensitive to other people sometimes and get a bit exhausted and need to sleep a lot. I'm not real great with friendships I guess
do asbergeous people necessarily find it hard to read emotions? and smart?
cause they are the two I don't relate too.
I'm not smart and I visually read emotions well. or umm feel them . I feel them well?

if I tick all the other aspergeous boxes does it matter that I don't tick those two.
I'm excellent connecting 1 on 1 just not in a group.

they want me to go back in a few days for more therapy.

I'm really sorry about what you are going through, I pray God heals any wounds in your heart and heals you of your conditions.

I was diagnosed with Aspergers at age 25 after being supposedly ''misdiagnosed'' with ADHD and depression at age 12. Being overly sensitive is a sign of Aspergers. It's makes you have very bad social skills.

I am finding that the closer I get to God and walking after His spirit and His righteousness, the more I am ''healed'' of all the mental conditions I was diagnosed with, including aspergers. God heals everything and He can help you with all that stuff. Alot of my problems were generational stuff and self-inflicted stuff like sins i needed to repent of.

I tried over 15 different anti-depressants and anti-depressant combinations, ADHD meds, thousands and thousands of dollars for therapy, crystals, psychics, everything... NOTHING EVER helped. The ADHD meds made me focus for a few hours but then I got addicted to them and that was BAD.

The only thing that helps me is God. Try starting with prayer, studying scripture, and listening to worship music. Just some suggestions, God bless

 

[Motherofkittens]

Do people with Aspergers usually find it difficult to get married?

I know lots of aspergers who are married. As for the OP nobody ticks all the boxes. People with autism and aspergers actually have more empathy than other people but expressing and understanding it can be more complicated for them. I'd recommend reading all you can about it because knowledge is power. And best of luck.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

how well do you do with casual conversation?

what do you usually talk about during 1 on 1 conversation?

 

[NIrelandGillian]

To the OP, sorry to hear you were upset that you were diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I hope the therapy helps you to come to a better understanding and acceptance of the condition. Has the therapist told you of any support groups in your area where you can meet up with like-minded people? That can be a big help.

I hope you continue to post in here.

Gillian

 

[Theodiskaz]

Motherofkittens gives great advice. Social interactions wear me out, that sound normal for an aspie. Also, the emotional thing. I seem to sense when someone close is feeling a strong, relatively unmixed emotion. I find my perceptions are very quickly drawn to people suffering or in some misery, I notice them even at some distance. But I can't connect to more than one person at a time any more than I can multitask, period. And after an intense connection I need my rest, so that sounds familiar. Another thing, like others have said, no one checks all the boxes. If you are like me, I was afraid to own my AS because I get kicked out of every group I try to join...and I couldn't bear not being accepted, yet again, the eternal misfit. My perception is having AS puts you solidly within a community of misfits, and so far so good for me coming up on one year, now, so be encouraged!