You're imagining collateral damage as something unavoidable....not a choice someone was making.
There's a decent article that's super old, and I might be able to find if you aren't willing to take my word for it. It's just an account from an American journalist a couple of weeks into the second Iraqi war.
In it, he describes how are car holding 2 mothers and like 4 children are gunned down approaching a checkpoint. He watches the whole thing. The official military report describes the car as driving at high speed or erratically....and warning shots being fired. The journalist says nothing of the sort happened....the car simply didn't stop quite as soon as the soldiers wanted it to. It was driving erratically nor were any warning shots fired.
What you described is not soldiers being held to a low standard, but rather, soldiers lying about their conduct such that it portrays them as having complied with a standard that, in reality, they did not meet.
My point is....there are often certain realities of situations that aren't always clear to those outside them. I'd like to say I wouldn't haphazardly gun down any innocent people ii it were me....but I don't know. Perhaps the best chance I've got of surviving that scenario and going home in one piece is to take that risk as few times as possible....and gun down each and every person I think might be a threat, evidence or not.
To a lesser degree, I can see how a cop....in some places....might decide that there are only so many times he can possibly wait for someone to point a gun at him before he reacts and still live to go home to his family. I can understand why people don't want it to be that way....
Oh sure. To be clear, I don't think there's anything puzzling whatsoever about the logic and the incentives on the cops' end of things. If Officer A's primary goal is to get home at night, of course he's going to shoot first and ask questions later.
My issue is that - as crappy as it sounds - that shouldn't be an officer's primary goal. Cops don't exist to serve themselves; they exist to serve the rest of us. Their primary goal should be the rest of us getting home safely. If that means that they assume some elevated risk by being more patient in assessing threats, so be it. That's the job (or ought to be, IMO).
To illustrate the point that things might be skewed too far towards impatience, comparing
WaPo's police shooting database to the stats on the
Officer Down Memorial Page shows that there are roughly the same number of (if not more) unarmed people killed by police every year as there are police killed by some flavor of intentional homicide (I'm excluding car accidents, heart attacks, and other causes not resulting from someone attacking them). The numbers fluctuate year-to-year, but the number of police killed typically sits around 50-70.
WaPo's data only goes back to 2015, so it's hard to compare older numbers or determine trends, though the data the have puts the number of unarmed killed by police in that same range. 2015, though, had 94, and this year is on track to see about 40, so I wonder if there's a downward trend emerging.
Either way, the fact remains that, among all police-citizen interactions, an unarmed citizen is just as likely to be killed by a cop as a cop is to be killed by that citizen. That suggests to me that the cops are posing more of a threat to the citizens than they ought to be.
but I don't see any real solutions beyond disarming the public.
You're not going to get any argument from me on additional gun control measures, but I have to imagine that there's *something* else that can be done to mitigate the risk for everybody.