My husband and I are newly married, about three months now. Before we got married we discussed our goals and family expectations quite extensively. We were both 100% sure that we wanted to start a family as soon as we were married. A couple weeks after we got married he mentioned that he might want to wait a little longer, so he could "keep me to himself for a little while." I felt very flattered and so we got a puppy instead. Later I had a health concern pop up, that forced me to see an OBGYN, while we were there he mentioned that we wanted to start trying for a baby. I was so excited that he was on board with it! It was heart braking when the doctor told me that I did not ovulate naturally and would need at the bare minimum medication to become pregnant. After one cycle of Femara, a drug that forces ovulation, I was still not pregnant, and my husband admitted to me that he no longer wants to try for a baby. Not only does he not want me to pursue infertility treatment he wants me to start a birth control. He doesn't feel like the time is right, and we are not financially stable enough (we're both enlisted in the military and make about 33k each a year). He has a valid point and I know babies are very expensive, but we don't live paycheck to paycheck and the military covers all of our medical bills. I feel so distraught, part of me feels like he doesn't want to have kids and he will never feel like we are secure enough to start a family. Am I wrong to feel this way? He's treating me like a total drama queen because I am upset. How do I explain to him that we will never be as financially stable as he feels is necessary?