This post is so rude. Alot of christians have had sex outside of marriage. Not all are virgins. And theyre married.
I shouldnt have done it but whats done is done but your post is rude plain and simple. So ill be ignoring this.
Needs to be removed honestly. Just dripping with judgement and makes you look and sound like a b-tch. Who said Im not worth marrying? You? ( Derailing but by this logic a friend of mind should be married. One is a man the other a woman. Both have degrees, good jobs, on their own, very responsible, love God and are in their 30s and unmarried. There's no formula to this honestly. Lastly you dont know who has had an abortion. So just bc someone appears childless doesnt make it so. And you'd be none the wiser. It also doesnt make them more worth marrying. Personally speaking i felt i did the right thing by keeping them but your post is the main reason a lot of women do go that route for fear of judgement. Fear of not being damaged and devalued. Stop.)
Also he's dated women with kids so that part isnt an issue. If youre just gonna be an asxhole then stay off my thread.
Thank you.
We all come to Christ having sinned and fallen short of the Glory of God, this is why we need a Savior..
After we are saved we enter into a process of sanctification, where we learn and grow in Christ. Our relationship to both God and man change as we are being reconciled to both God (foremost) and man.
Relationships are built upon trust - that you are who you say you are. Most especially close relationships of the romantic nature that should, if one be in Christ, occur within a marriage covenant based on common interest, mutual feelings, mutual goals.
Since trust relies on you being who you say you are, living a life of sin, without evidence of a regenerate nature (new nature in Christ), while calling yourself Christian makes you into a liar.
This isn't to say we won't sin, but we do, once in Christ, put behind us the settled patterns of sin seen in those not in Christ.
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For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins” Hebrews 10:26
This sinning deliberately or sinning willfully isn't a one time deal. It's a settled pattern of sin, entered into willingly, deliberately, happily that has no evidence of the new birth whatsoever...
A Christian who shows no evidence of the new birth, who willingly, deliberately, happily follows a pattern of sinning shows themselves to be a liar - which makes them untrustworthy.
Somewhere, deep inside, people know this instinctively, and treat them as people that cannot be trusted.
They may use them for whatever they are worth, they may enter into marriage even... but the basis upon which is usually not trust, and as such those relationships fail...
When you spread your legs for whomever you desire, and call yourself a Christian in the same breath, you are following a pattern of sinning willfully that makes you someone to be used, not someone who can be trusted...
If you want to be respected by others, you must first walk in the light like Christ is the light - and respect yourself and the God whom you claim to know. Hold yourself to a standard and others will treat you within that standard.
Otherwise, they wont trust you, or find you honorable.
You can live as the world - but don't expect much when you do... from either God or man.
Stop comparing yourself to the nominal Christian and begin comparing yourself to Christ. What did He say? "If your right hand causes you to sin cut it off" Matthew 5:30
Avoid the occasion to sin, and walk in the light of Christ. If you have difficulty being alone with a man without sinning then don't be alone with a man.
Hold yourself to a higher standard and the world will treat you within that standard. In other words, be what you say you are in Christ, and others won't treat you like a common mistress they throw money at and little more.
It's not easy... and I do say this in love and with great understanding of what it's like to have difficulty with sin. But we are to abide in Christ, and not act like sinning all day long is a small thing - because it's truly not.