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You’re struggling because you entertain personal opinions that raise questions and doubts in your heart. You are drawn to (or attract) people who think along these lines. Consider your previous thread. Its the same thing. it is a sin to add to your natural appearance? really? where did God say so?
I think you would be better served with a book or bible study that includes thought provoking questions which allow you to consider the topic without condemnation. Elizabeth George has several for women. Cynthia Heald has a positive demeanor you may appreciate.
As for the site, I’m familiar with it and understand their ethos. There are others of the same stripe I frequented in the past. I mentored women with a similar disposition. I know their mindset.
However, their makeup has many elements which contributes to their surrender and enables them to live out a form of headship that would be less appealing or appropriate for others. If you’ve been blessed with positive examples of masculinity and femininity in your home and observed mutual respect between the sexes. The idea of replicating the same isn’t difficult. If you married someone whose leadership you hold in high regard. It isn’t hard to follow him.
In most cases, women with that background exude qualities very appealing to their complement. They attract men who desire to be caretakers and head of household. Oftentimes, they influence one another. The nuances of her personality may reflect elements he prefers or emphasizes. Pliability is a mainstay of these connections. Pleasing him brings them joy.
Most Christian women aren’t wired that way. There’s nothing wrong with you. Some women thrive in service-driven relationships and the rest need a different flavor. Its fine to read different viewpoints. But if the message isn’t edifying or challenging you positively. You may want to rethink it and focus on more profitable pursuits.
~Bella
The reason i hold these views is becaus emy christian minister father started abusing me as a baby, and was also violent towards my mum and my sister. i was seuxally assaulted by several different people at different stages of my childhood. my church was very Fundamentalist and their view was women cannot leave an abusive man.
so to me my views are that headship is protection for a woman because when i see a man lording it over a woman to me that reminds me what my father did- mum not allowed her own money, everythign acconted for, physicaly punished, verbally and mentally abused. i have CPTSD that will take years maybe decades to work through and i only just started, so i am not ready for marriage yet. and children have never been an interest of mine. i am not nurturing at all......i am introverted and and like my own time and company. so a loving God would never reject me for things that are not my fault or choice...
so yeah i get what you mean, and i dont have naything agianst Lori Alexander per se , i believe she sincere and loves Jesus. but i do think her way is not to be imposed on all women.....for a start, if you look for a verse in scriptures which mandates that ALL women must marry and bear children...you won't find one. you wont find a verse which says salvation is through those things either. try it. you wont find it. and i mean the Bible, not any othe ropinion becaus ei only really trust the bible....so many people "Prophesy" tehse days and it 90% of the time just opinions.
i wil check out the authors you mentioned- a friend of mine suggested Rachel Held-Evans and am thinking maybe Beth Moore as well- don't know if you ehard of her? i have read Elisabeth Elliot on womanhood (Let me be a woman) and i like her because she traditional but not extreme either... she just shares what worked for her as a wife. also she was straight and wanted . i am near the asexual end of the spectrum- men dont interest me much at all.....)
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