porcupine said:As to telling, that is another matter. If she has fully repented (not just quit doing this) then it might be less damaging to their marriage to say nothing. However, if she is still thinking of this other person (and, BTW, this is NOT love, but lust) she may need to do so to get his help in changing her heart.
New_Found_Faith said:I disagree. It may be less damaging to her marriage but she still would be living a lie [in sin]. She should tell her husband, because if she doesn't she will be deciving him.
Sean C.
New_Found_Faith said:I disagree. It may be less damaging to her marriage but she still would be living a lie [in sin]. She should tell her husband, because if she doesn't she will be deciving him.
Sean C.
porcupine said:If she has truly repented, she is washed by the blood of this sin. If this is completely over, then the only thing that can be accomplished is to make it impossible for the husband to ever trust her fully again. However, if this thing is a struggle, then she must tell him so he can help her in the struggle.
Jvn said:Great debate, thanks. On the love part, let's assume she is in love with him (fact is none of us know for sure). Then, what? What if she doesn't love her husband anymore? She has told me such things.
Jvn said:They aren't Catholic, but what can Catholics do?
i dont know anyone he hasnt lied to their spouses, example would be my wife has these white pants that makes her butt look bigger than it is, but she loves those pants, now i havent told her what i see but if i do i would shatter her(not only about the pants but her self image a little bit as well) but i would tell the truth, or i could leave it and hope she gets sick of them any way, your saying i shouldnt keep it from her and tell her no matter what, i dont agree at all, if you repent God has forgotton the sin so why shouldnt you?I disagree. It may be less damaging to her marriage but she still would be living a lie [in sin]. She should tell her husband, because if she doesn't she will be deciving him.
Sean C.
Willo said:Its cleary adultery, and it appears that she is justfying it by saying because intercourse hasn't occured thus its not.
She doesn't want to change, she cleary loves her sin
New_Found_Faith said:If she continues to decieve her husband, she isn't truly repentant. She is lying to him, where there should be trust in a relationship... he has a right to know, and if he is a Christian he will not condemn her.
Heh... well then you've got an even bigger problem. Marriage doesn't end with legal divorce, so if she were to divorce him and 'Marry' the adulterer, she would be committing adultery each time she has sex with her new 'husband.' Same thing would go for the guy if he re-marries. Are they Catholic? I know what they can do if they are Catholic, but you'd have to ask someone else if they aren't.