I have been friends with a man whom I love and who loves me for over a year and a half. We started out merely as friends and have drawn closer in the last few months. Both of us have been in very damaging past relationships, both have children from these relationships and are hesitant to dive into anything. We both have career goals that we want to achieve and are very much aligned. We are taking things very slow, unfortunately our feelings seem to not have that same mindset. And at times those feelings cause rifts between us because they are at odds with the situation we have both decided to establish, which is that of close friends and business associates. There is a part of me that believes though that he is everything I want in a man, and knows that I am much of (if not all) he wants in a woman. However, we are both afraid to go further and create a commitment. I find myself doubting him. Doubting his honesty (although he has yet to lie to me, even when the truth was not pretty). Doubting his genuine feelings for me (although he shows them often, even though it is not always when he is focused on business). Doubting that he is the right match. But I know a large part of that doubt comes from my fear of certainty. I was certain with my previous relationship. So certain that I spent 9 years trying to fix something that God was begging me to let go. It seems when I attend church regularly, my spirit is stronger and we are harmonious. When I let weeks slip by, we argue, not over church as he is not a regular attender, but over little things that are not important. So my question is this: is my doubt a message from God to step away, or is it a tool of the enemy to prey on my fear and cause the rifts? How do I know?