So I've been single for about a year and have been dating for around 4 months. I guess I spent too much time on a therapist's couch because actually using the skills I picked up there scare women off. See, the problem is that I communicate.
I actually tell a woman what I want. I have the gall to explain that I want her to do the same. I don't want to hear "Can we go into that store?", I want to hear "I want to go into that store." Is that too much to ask? Why pass the choice off to me? If it is something that I truly don't want to do, I won't go, but why should my general distaste of whatever is in there preclude her from looking around? I'm a big boy, I can entertain myself for the 15 minutes she is away from my side.
If I am talking on the phone with a woman and she says something and I don't respond immediately, it means that I am thinking, not that I took offense. I cannot count the number of times I have had a woman apologize for the brief silence as I form my thoughts. If I took offense, I will say so. Believe me, I'm not shy about it. Likewise, if I say something out of line, I expect her to TELL ME! There is nothing I like more than finding out three days later that I angered someone that I am dating. Is that too much to ask?
I'm 35. I date age appropriate women. But there are times when it feels like I'm back in high school with the facades women are putting up for me. I don't want to know the person she thinks I want her to be. I want to know her. Is that too much to ask?
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I actually tell a woman what I want. I have the gall to explain that I want her to do the same. I don't want to hear "Can we go into that store?", I want to hear "I want to go into that store." Is that too much to ask? Why pass the choice off to me? If it is something that I truly don't want to do, I won't go, but why should my general distaste of whatever is in there preclude her from looking around? I'm a big boy, I can entertain myself for the 15 minutes she is away from my side.
If I am talking on the phone with a woman and she says something and I don't respond immediately, it means that I am thinking, not that I took offense. I cannot count the number of times I have had a woman apologize for the brief silence as I form my thoughts. If I took offense, I will say so. Believe me, I'm not shy about it. Likewise, if I say something out of line, I expect her to TELL ME! There is nothing I like more than finding out three days later that I angered someone that I am dating. Is that too much to ask?
I'm 35. I date age appropriate women. But there are times when it feels like I'm back in high school with the facades women are putting up for me. I don't want to know the person she thinks I want her to be. I want to know her. Is that too much to ask?
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