Is it sin to touch?

[Maximillia]

Hi Dave,
People chose to be part of the problem or part of the solution.

The original poster has a concern and I was replying to his situation.
The act of touching yourself is perfectly fine but the act of self sexual satisfaction is never a good idea, it is never good for man or woman period. Not only because of what it does but also because of what it does not do. A man in need of intimacy will reach out to his wife and try to grow closer with her.
There are so many passages referring to this that I would be sitting all day to educate you.
Most importantly Jesus speaks on how a man/woman should behave in marriage.
Both husband and wife lose authority over their own body when they marry and one needs to be careful of what goes into their mind.
It is not my intention to judge what is and what is not but as a Christian who has read The Bible I won't steer a husband reaching out for advice in the direction of sin.
Best wishes.

 

[TheyCallMeDave]

Hi Dave,
People chose to be part of the problem or part of the solution.

The original poster has a concern and I was replying to his situation.
The act of touching yourself is perfectly fine but the act of self sexual satisfaction is never a good idea, it is never good for man or woman period. Not only because of what it does but also because of what it does not do. A man in need of intimacy will reach out to his wife and try to grow closer with her.
There are so many passages referring to this that I would be sitting all day to educate you.
Most importantly Jesus speaks on how a man/woman should behave in marriage.
Both husband and wife lose authority over their own body when they marry and one needs to be careful of what goes into their mind.
It is not my intention to judge what is and what is not but as a Christian who has read The Bible I won't steer a husband reaching out for advice in the direction of sin.
Best wishes.

If a man is seperated from his wife for great lengths of time, there isnt a thing wrong, objectively, with releasing his sexual tension with thoughts of her. I even know a pastor who does exactly this when he goes on a speaking circuit and is away for quite a few weeks. We have to be careful that we dont appeal to the bible when it is silent on such matters as this. Its one thing it being your personal opinion, and quite another being from God. Same with calling something sin, when the bible is silent .

As for singles, it becomes a tougher issue because we are told not to lust at another .

I too, wouldnt steer a man into the direction of true objective sin. Regards.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

This is sooooo common. I didn't read all the replies but I am sure counseling and communication was brought up. Its what I would do. Its one thing if both couples don't really care for sex. But if the one does and the other doesn't, it can lead to major issues down the road when the person that likes sex starts cheating or looking elsewhere for sexual pleasure.

Now I know in my case after I marry my fiance in a month, we will be separated for about a year due to the fact she lives in another country. So obviously in that case masturbation is ok. But if we lived together and she didn't want to ever really he sex, I know my masturbation would lead to things I do not want. Hence I would have her and I go get counseling.

As for singles, it becomes a tougher issue because we are told not to lust at another .

So true. As my wedding date approaches and we walk about the honeymoon (nothing sexual) I find myself lusting more and it drives me nuts because I don't want to lust for her since we are not married just yet.