Sometimes I think its my job to tell them what they are doing wrong and what they should be doing to be right.
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In scripture, (Ephesians 5) we see that the goal of marriage is the righteousness of the bride through the righteousness of the husband.Sometimes I think its my job to tell them what they are doing wrong and what they should be doing to be right.
That's a very efficient way to lose friends.Sometimes I think its my job to tell them what they are doing wrong and what they should be doing to be right.
In scripture, (Ephesians 5) we see that the goal of marriage is the righteousness of the bride through the righteousness of the husband.
We further see this in the roles of marriage, where the husband is to be the head and the wife is to submit.
Therefore, the husband "changes" the wife through a living example of godliness, he demonstrates the Love of Christ, every day, in every way, while the wife "changes" the husband through the pure, reverent, gentle, quiet spirit she lives in submission before her God and her husband. In these roles lies a unity in which no man can break, and when we follow this scriptural teaching, what we discover is that both of us change, both of us become more Christ like.
amenI can honestly say that I tried to change my wife by telling her all the wrong she was doing and telling her how it should be corrected. Not until I took a step back and noticed all my wrongs and started to change myself did my wife... well my entire household start to change.
So I would say no its not right to try to change someone, change yourself pray they will follow.
Sometimes I think its my job to tell them what they are doing wrong and what they should be doing to be right.
For some reason because I am sleepy I thought this meant literally change spouse.. like change them for someone else. LOL. I was so confused!
I don't think people need to change their spouse. However I'm sure there are times when you should change things. Like if spouse has a spending problem and you are going into debt or something. Aside from such situations theres no need to change them. Then again as we get older we become harder to change anyways.
Sometimes I think its my job to tell them what they are doing wrong and what they should be doing to be right.
Ana the Ist.....what a great example of building trust and security into a marriage. Way to go!
Well thank you!
I like posting in this section, because I love my wife and my marriage and I certainly don't mind sharing any of that with anyone. Any marriage or even relationship will run into trouble. ..whether it's caused by the couple or not. I think this is a great place to draw on each other's experiences because we all face similar problems and someone with an outside perspective can really help. I'd like to think one day maybe a post of mine would help someone on here in their life.
If anyone can take anything from my post, I'd like to think it's that to facilitate that positive change, you need patience...it cannot be forced. The person has to want to change. That, and don't add to a negative situation with more negativity. Patience, understanding, compassion, love...and communication... can cut right through anger, sadness, insecurity and fear.