There's nothing to forgive you for, but I just could not disagree more with your posts here & I certainly hope the OP doesn't follow your advice. Now, for one thing, let's just stop and think about how the 16 year old girl who reached out for friendship with the 18 year old girl would feel if that was denied on account of the tiny age difference & "authority" between them. Sounds like they're both in roles at their church. All she's wanted was friendship, doing the most innocent of things like fishing. It's just not right to discourage that. That's not being kind. It's being absurdly legalistic. Honestly it has the risk of making that 18 year old girl come off as haughty or full of herself, which would be really sad & unfortunate. That's just how others in the youth ministry could very well see it. We're talking about 2 teens of the same gender hanging out socially together. Now if the OP was 48 then sure, that would be inappropriate, but 18 and 16 makes them peers. The only sense in bringing the difference in 1 being legal & the other not is if they were doing anything at all where that was relevant, and they're not. We're not talking about this girl having sex with the other girl, we're talking about them going fishing, building up a good friendship. Hopefully the 2 would strengthen 1 another in their spiritual walk. It ought to be encouraged.
Really? Between 18 & 16 year olds of the same gender doing things like going fishing together?? If what you're saying is the truth, that's extremely bizarre & should not be considered normative or a reason to base advice off in normal circumstances.
If we were talking about two people we knew had renewed minds conformed to the will of God (Romans 12), you'd certainly be correct.
Moreover, if that were the case, their ages would be irrelevant, whether 16 and 18 or 16 and 30 or 16 and 60.
But the fact that even you are forced to recognize the age factor suggests that you, too, know it's all too likely that we can't depend on everyone with the title "leader" in the congregation has a renewed mind.
Moreover, if the congregation really operated scripturally, all leaders would be "deacons" and selected as such according to 1 Timoth 3 and Titus 1. If you're going to claim scripture, you have to do it right--half-stepping doesn't work with the Holy Spirit.
If selections are not made according to scripture, then you're relying on nothing but the worldly instincts of both parties.
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