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I think theres something a bit creepy how...babies arent made with love these days. :-(
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I've been wanting to read that. It seems interesting and sad.Never Let me Go.
No, not the sterile husband. The husband treated all of the kids he raised as his own. His younger brother was the surrogate for the second, third and fourth child. That brother, the biological father of those kids treated them special while ignoring his eldest 'nephew' who was not related by blood.So the sterile husband mistreated his child that was had by surrogacy but treated his younger brothers children, his nephews or neices - with gifts?
Sorry your post is a bit confusing.
I think you misunderstand the situation.Ok just read it trhough again
So the younger brother bought his surrogate children gifts...but not the one had by you. But you dont even talk to the one you had. It seems to me maybe you the one who was in a rush.
The younger brother wouldnt have caused problems as he had no reason to prefer the son that he didnt have biologically. That was your role.
If you read the Bible stories, it sounds like they weren't then either. Hagar, Tamar, etc.. seemed to have no real say in the matter.I think theres something a bit creepy how...babies arent made with love these days. :-(
Ok so this biological son of yours Yahu.
Who you gave up to your christian infertile couple. Since hes the FIRSTBORN does he get privleiges of inheritance?
Not sure why later they had more but..
If you read story of Tamar even the third husband she was promised didnt work so she ended up having children by her father in law (by disgusing herself as harlot) and had twins. So it kinda had to stay in the Judah line.
But in your case I dont see the reasoning. Compeltely different scenario to judah and tamar. Of course Judah was wrong to marry a cannaite woman. And go with prositutes. But obviously, its written in the bible as Pharez was the ancestor of Jesus.
However this doesnt mean that we as christians have this need to procreate and continue a family lineage does it? Unless this couple that were infertile had a dynasty or something. Were they wealthy? Not saying they may have paid you off but why exactly did they NEED to have a child right then. In tamars case, she was a widow...
Personally I don't see anything unchristian about it. It's incredibly unselfish - personally I am way too attached/selfish to surrogate, I couldn't give a child up to another couple for their happiness, especially considering my past. However, it is a big gift to help those born with medical issues that prevent them from having their own child to love, especially when it comes to donating eggs or sperm. Adoption certainly isn't unchristian. I feel very badly for those who ache for a child but cannot have one of their own and don't have options open to them - adoption can be terribly expensive and hard to get, donor lists are closed and too expensive with fertility treatment. It's tough.
Im sorry if it comes across judgemental but i still have questions about it that remain unanswered and not convicned its the right thing to do for a christian.
With hagar and tamar you do see the consequences of surrogacy or playing the harlot -lot of heartache and pain.
Im sorry if it comes across judgemental but i still have questions about it that remain unanswered and not convicned its the right thing to do for a christian.
One cannot shift blame the brother for not being an uncle for his non biological children when you yourself are not even an uncle to his and only contacted your biological son ONCE.
Honestly is this not hypocritical?
Correct. I made an agreement that I would NOT interfere with their raising of that child. I passed all responsibility for that child over to Tony and vowed I would not become a problem for them. When Tony's brother took over being surrogate for the rest of the children, he made no such agreement and became a problem to the family.It makes it more painful for the parent, adoptive parents and child to keep in contact some of the time. Then another bond forms where can cause regret, confusion or anger. Most of the time surrogates do not keep in contact.