Howdy All!
I'm a stay-at-home/homeschooling dad who was diagnosed with BPD about 9 years ago. I've really, really struggled with it and quite frankly, I've been losing. I spent 5 years in therapy, but have been out of therapy for about 4 years now. I've actually got 8 out of the 9 symptoms (I've never tried to commit suicide, though I seriously thought about it for awhile 7 years ago).
I've always been high-functioning, but it has been a big trap. A lot of my identity was in my work and my ability to achieve things. Two years ago, my wife & I decided that we wanted to home school our daughter and I quit my job to stay at home with her (my wife is a family doctor). While the experience has been really, really good for our daughter, it has been pretty costly to me. I have pretty much lost all structure in my life and also lost what little identity I had.
We've got a great church. They minister a lot in healing prayer and do a lot with SRA victims, DID, etc. However, they have had virtually no success for Borderline. A good friend of mine, who is the coordinator for the ministry, actually told me that every person that has come in with Borderline has left with little-to-no improvement.
The last week has been very, very bad. I've been binging with food and gained 7 pounds in the last 4 days. I can't go to bed. I'm not sure why, but I hate the thought of going to bed (not going to sleep, just going to bed). I see my family doc tomorrow and I'm pretty sure that he's not going to be happy. I was supposed to be working on losing weight (I'm 120 pounds overweight), but I don't think I've lost any. I feel like our marriage is falling apart and that it's all my fault. I haven't been to church in 3 Sundays.
Right now, it seems like I don't have the ability to process my emotions, so I simply shut down. In the last week alone, I've played over 400 games of Free cell.
I'm wondering if y'all had any recommendations for those at our church that are ministering to Borderlines. Is there any specific type of prayer that is needed by those struggling with Borderline (i.e. DID eventually needs integration)?
I would really appreciate any help you could offer. I'm really running out of steam and I'm running out of the energy to keep fighting. (BTW - I'm not suicidal or anything, just tired).
If you've gotten this far, thanks.
Godspeed,
Ed
I'm a stay-at-home/homeschooling dad who was diagnosed with BPD about 9 years ago. I've really, really struggled with it and quite frankly, I've been losing. I spent 5 years in therapy, but have been out of therapy for about 4 years now. I've actually got 8 out of the 9 symptoms (I've never tried to commit suicide, though I seriously thought about it for awhile 7 years ago).
I've always been high-functioning, but it has been a big trap. A lot of my identity was in my work and my ability to achieve things. Two years ago, my wife & I decided that we wanted to home school our daughter and I quit my job to stay at home with her (my wife is a family doctor). While the experience has been really, really good for our daughter, it has been pretty costly to me. I have pretty much lost all structure in my life and also lost what little identity I had.
We've got a great church. They minister a lot in healing prayer and do a lot with SRA victims, DID, etc. However, they have had virtually no success for Borderline. A good friend of mine, who is the coordinator for the ministry, actually told me that every person that has come in with Borderline has left with little-to-no improvement.
The last week has been very, very bad. I've been binging with food and gained 7 pounds in the last 4 days. I can't go to bed. I'm not sure why, but I hate the thought of going to bed (not going to sleep, just going to bed). I see my family doc tomorrow and I'm pretty sure that he's not going to be happy. I was supposed to be working on losing weight (I'm 120 pounds overweight), but I don't think I've lost any. I feel like our marriage is falling apart and that it's all my fault. I haven't been to church in 3 Sundays.
Right now, it seems like I don't have the ability to process my emotions, so I simply shut down. In the last week alone, I've played over 400 games of Free cell.
I'm wondering if y'all had any recommendations for those at our church that are ministering to Borderlines. Is there any specific type of prayer that is needed by those struggling with Borderline (i.e. DID eventually needs integration)?
I would really appreciate any help you could offer. I'm really running out of steam and I'm running out of the energy to keep fighting. (BTW - I'm not suicidal or anything, just tired).
If you've gotten this far, thanks.
Godspeed,
Ed