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I agree Stan, about the manipulativeness of it all.
Xfeak, no insult taken.
Xfeak, no insult taken.
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[FONT="]Right on MK!!![/FONT]we need to learn to pick apart what's being "preached" and whether or not we want to "buy" it.
Where's the misogyny? In the lyrics of the song (mostly).....and, the whole dynamic of how each (meaning RT and Miley) get their notoriety in "making history" (which is what Miley has claimed was her goal. RT has said something similar---that he wants as many people to see his "work" as possible).The problem is that both aren't being talked to together. This is a perfect example of where it could be. Miley is after all by the standards of my country an adult; she is capable of making her own decisions, as is Robin. So BOTH of them decided to do this video. So where's the misogyny? In his leap of logic that this will lead to more rape?
It's not attacking windmills......it's attacking something that's very real. What Miley has been doing (in my opinion) is *trying* to gain a foothold in a tough industry by mimicking what she sees (what she believes the audience wants). Her translation (or execution) is off.......but, it still is a reflection of what she sees around her.Furthermore, it's not like over the last two years Miley Cyrus was an innocent little lamb and suddenly got lascivious one day--she's been doing this for a while.
Here's a suggestion for the Pastor--maybe I'll post on his blog--how about talking to BOTH boys and girls at the same time? How to respect each other, treat one another well? How about accepting that men and women are equally capable of evil--and that evil is wrong no matter who does it? Enough with the Don Quixote rubbish.
Here is how the article ends:
Bolding is original to the article.
I don't think it's so much about the song or what happened on stage. It's about getting this message out: it's not enough that feminists talk to women about leaving unhealthy and abusive relationships. It's not enough that feminists talk to men about the unfairness of the power imbalance and their enforcement of perceived power in the home. The only way to address these issues is by teaching our sons the appropriate way to treat women - by respecting them and treating them as equals; and by teaching our sons that it's not okay to be treated the way Robin Thicke was treated in the video - that our boys do not have to take that kind of disrespectful treatment, just as women do not have to take disrespectful treatment.
I agree with what VG says here. I'm not referring to tilting at windmills so much as I am saying that the pastor is like Don Quixote trying to " defend" Dulcinea, who is actually making her own choices.
She's (Miley) making her own choices within a corrupt dynamic, though. I don't see it as the pastor "defending" her (or all women, for that matter) as much as he is trying to right the wrongs (which is a broken and corrupt dynamic and how to repair it---for our own lives and, hopefully, the lives of our children. We can't change others.).
So you agree with the pastor then? It's not about everyone having a sense of integrity
Our value comes from being respected and being loved as we respect and love the people who matter to us. Be brave enough to tell a different story. Be courageous enough to rise above the lies that our culture tells you about how to treat women. In doing so, you’ll help create a better world for your sons. And for your sons’ sons. And that’s something to which we should all aspire.
I agree with what VG says here. I'm not referring to tilting at windmills so much as I am saying that the pastor is like Don Quixote trying to " defend" Dulcinea, who is actually making her own choices.
The blog/article sites he linked to for mothers talking to daughters about about dignity and self respect. The article the pastor wrote is basically "don't rape and abuse women, boys." It's lopsided. The point VG made, and that I made, is that it is not enough to write these things. There is given no sense of what the alternatives actually are, including in the women's blogs. It's hallmark card vagueness, and therefore in my opinion useless and counterproductive advice.
So.....are you suggesting that RT was victimized or disrespected?
As to it being lopsided-----the author's point was, "It's not enough to *only* talk to our daughters.....our sons *also* need to be brought into the conversation". IOW......I read that to mean----"let's balance things out and not allow it to stay lopsided".
The alternative.....to abusing and raping? Is that what you mean? Probably that starts with Defined Lines (as opposed to the Blurry Ones). Another thing the blog article says is that, "We need to talk to our sons and our brothers about respecting women and respecting themselves." IMO.....teaching boys to respect women is simultaneously teaching them to respect themselves at the same time. It's also....."loving God (which includes having His standards) and loving others as ourselves".
So.....are you suggesting that RT was victimized or disrespected?
You had said you agreed with VG when she said this:I'm not even referring to Thicke. I'm referring to the pastor whose blog was linked to in the OP. He's the Don Quixote. He consistently in his blog makes it clear that he's making his own stand against The Patriarchy.
I don't think it's so much about the song or what happened on stage. It's about getting this message out: it's not enough that feminists talk to women about leaving unhealthy and abusive relationships. It's not enough that feminists talk to men about the unfairness of the power imbalance and their enforcement of perceived power in the home. The only way to address these issues is by teaching our sons the appropriate way to treat women - by respecting them and treating them as equals; and by teaching our sons that it's not okay to be treated the way Robin Thicke was treated in the video - that our boys do not have to take that kind of disrespectful treatment, just as women do not have to take disrespectful treatment.
I don't think he was victimized. I do think he was disrespected.
I don't think he was victimized. I do think he was disrespected.
That being said, if the genders were reversed and a woman was singing and a guy she was supposed to be dueting with "in the heat of the moment" grabbed her crotch, touched her breasts, and climbed on her to nibble her neck and kiss her, I'm sure people would be arguing she was victimized. The outrage would be loud, long, and bitter.
Adrian Brody gave Hallie Berry a passionate kiss in the heat of the moment after winning an Oscar, people were outraged at the violation of her body and personal space until she came out and said that they were friends and she didn't mind. Nobody said "well, she was topless in "Swordfish" and did a graphic sex scene in (I can't think of the movie's name... But she won an Oscar for it...), Adrian Brody was merely doing to her what she has been doing in the name of entertainment for awhile."
You had said you agreed with VG when she said this:
and, you added, "I am saying that the pastor is like Don Quixote trying to " defend" Dulcinea, who is actually making her own choices."
So.....when you say, "Dulcinea, who is actually making her own choices".....do you mean women in general---or what? (I thought you were referring to Miley).
It's typical modern preaching: a few platitudes stated earnestly with nothing practical at all.