I am asking this question in the married section because it involves a married couple. My bf and I have been dating for 9 months. He is friends with a married couple; he was their best man. He was friends with V before he was friends with her husband, although they never dated. He has told me that they are active in their church and Christians, but they used to be involved in drugs and a bad lifestyle before they turned their lives around.
Since my bf and I have been dating, he has gone out to lunch with V a couple times, both times she called him. I didnt think much of it before, but as we have gotten closer, it has started to bother me. I have been reading about boundaries, and I think she is stepping over the line. Well, last week, she called my bf, and wanted us to go out to dinner with them. When we got there, those two started talking, and no one introduced her husband or myself, so we had to introduce ourselves to each other, which was awkward. Then, I sat down in the booth, and my bf sits down next to me. V sits down in the booth across from me while her husband went to the restroom. When he came back, V gets out of the booth so her husband sits across from me and she sits across from my bf. That made me uncomfortable. Then, V and my bf started talking about Dr. Who (sci-fi show), and she mentioned there is a convention, and he said he hadnt heard of it. Then, she said Ill come with you if you want, Ill be happy to come with you to my bf. I felt like a crumb, and basically sat there making sure my mouth was really full so I couldnt say what I felt like saying. I wanted to leave. (I might mention that she wore one of those off the shoulder tops, so a lot of skin was showing.) Anyhow, my bf has told me that she talks to him about her and her hubby's fertility issues
, vasectomy reversal, confessed that at one point she wanted to cheat on her husband, previous lifestyle antics, etc. I dont feel this is appropriate behavior for a married person. I tried to give him a quick smooch, but he acted like he didnt want to, which was weird for him.
When it was finally over, I told him that she is behaving inappropriately, and that going forward, I dont think they should hang out alone together without her husband or myself present. He was really hoping that we would hit it off and be great friends, but no dice. And being a Christian, I feel she is pushing the limits, and disrespecting me. I asked my bf why he wouldnt kiss me and he said he thought I was doing it to spite her, like he is more concerned with offending her than me.
He agrees to not spend time with her alone, hopes we can get together with them again, because they are all friends, but to be honest, I dont want to. If the time comes that I absolutely must, should I say something to her, since obviously my bf wont? Am I overreacting?