- Dec 29, 2017
- 30
- 18
- 52
- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Divorced
Hi,
I write in tears. I can not remember feeling so lonely and scared to face the future. My situation seemed to have started a little over a year ago. First, I had been celebate (sp?) for close to 8 years. One day I came home to the 1 bedroom apartment that my husband downsized us to (twin boys 2.5 yrs of age plus me and him)-he had packed his clothes and as he backed out the driveway he informed me that he was leaving. Usually I would try to talk him out of leaving but this time I was tired. I had 2 kids relying on me and at that time I knew that one was diagnosed on the autism spectrum and it was years later that the other one was diagnosed as well. I was in college and could not handle this news/blow that my supposed partner in life gave me.I let go-I let him go-I could not bear running or fighting-the Lord will not put more on us than we can bear. So for years I managed being a mother and student with no family or much support. I managed off of the $650 a month he gave to me along with help from organizations. I managed and fast forward my boys were 7yrs. old, we managed to a 3 bedroom, I earned a bachelors and masters degree and was accepted in a doctorate program- I felt that I wanted to be social and maybe date (I would have been okay with just chatting-I was okay and wasn't looking for more than friendship). Fast forward in just a matter of 2 weeks I met a gentleman, we shared alike dreams and passions, he was Christian we talked for hours enjoying each others company.Maybe a month or 2 later we met and got into a relationship.He told me that God showed him that I was his wife (I know) he pushed for us to get married-I felt that we needed to take our time to see how we worked through problems or disagreements. Fast forward..1 year plus later..and living in sin..he said that something was fighting against our being together and that if we were married that we wouldn't have as much..well, the confrontations that appeared to cause us splitting. I filed for divorce, but wanted to make sure that I did not cheat my children. He left September 30, came back 3 weeks later, left November 13th, and did not spend any of the holidays with me nor has he texted or called (besides Thanksgiving eve for 3 hours-text message dispute on Thanks giving morning-Called Dec 2nd I did not answer until the 4th in which he was with someone and discreetly said he would call but never did) I erased his number and all messages to not call him and I haven't heard from him since. This made me fall prostrate before God asking for forgiveness and at first praying that he call or text. I prayed for understanding. For closure. Then after a while I just wanted to not hurt or be in pain. I prayed for strength to get up and take my kids to school and care for them, that simple task was hard. I did not have anyone to talk to for support, family members turned on me (not because of this-I didn't share with family-never was close to family-there's no spiritual deepness in Christ from family to share my problems with). I fasted for 21 days, prayed studied (now just to repent and seek God and what he have me to do-just want the hurt and pain to go away) Just want vision and perspective for my life because over that year he and I dreamed together, planned and started business plans together, etc. In this wilderness, I saw how I was in sin and error. I saw idols that I made. I saw pride and the pride of life and even lust. The enemy came to steal, kill, and destroy. By the time this man left...I did not feel the value I held before I opened myself to him. It's like I'm not sure who I am. The enemy torment me by telling me that I lost out and let my blessing slip through my hands. He tell me that God sent me a husband and my actions forfeitted(sp?) my blessing and now someone else may get what was for me. Saints, pray for me. I've felt suicidal, have been taking sleeping pills around the clock to not think. I have to go to bed with Christian sermons playing because I fight in the night with principalities and powers (through studying I've learned that it's such demons like spirit husband). I know that I belong to Christ, I rededicated my life and now things are surfacing for me to get rid of them and renounce them. I feel like I'm in the wilderness and I wish that I had a seasoned Saint to fellowship with. I've been asking God to restore me and for a seven fold return on everything Satan has stolen from me (Proverbs 6:31). I feel like Paul when he said that he was pressed on every side (2 Corinthians 7:8). My child is having issues at school where i had to involve the school board, my aunt persecuted and lied on me, etc. I know that what the devil meant for my harm that God will turn it around for my good. I also know that the father loved me enough to chastise me and correct me-I'm thankful to have not died in my sin. Still, pray for me that God give me perspective and strength and restore and build me greater than what I was before. I want companionship-a husband who loves God and who know his calling and purpose. Pray for me Saints-God Bless You!
I write in tears. I can not remember feeling so lonely and scared to face the future. My situation seemed to have started a little over a year ago. First, I had been celebate (sp?) for close to 8 years. One day I came home to the 1 bedroom apartment that my husband downsized us to (twin boys 2.5 yrs of age plus me and him)-he had packed his clothes and as he backed out the driveway he informed me that he was leaving. Usually I would try to talk him out of leaving but this time I was tired. I had 2 kids relying on me and at that time I knew that one was diagnosed on the autism spectrum and it was years later that the other one was diagnosed as well. I was in college and could not handle this news/blow that my supposed partner in life gave me.I let go-I let him go-I could not bear running or fighting-the Lord will not put more on us than we can bear. So for years I managed being a mother and student with no family or much support. I managed off of the $650 a month he gave to me along with help from organizations. I managed and fast forward my boys were 7yrs. old, we managed to a 3 bedroom, I earned a bachelors and masters degree and was accepted in a doctorate program- I felt that I wanted to be social and maybe date (I would have been okay with just chatting-I was okay and wasn't looking for more than friendship). Fast forward in just a matter of 2 weeks I met a gentleman, we shared alike dreams and passions, he was Christian we talked for hours enjoying each others company.Maybe a month or 2 later we met and got into a relationship.He told me that God showed him that I was his wife (I know) he pushed for us to get married-I felt that we needed to take our time to see how we worked through problems or disagreements. Fast forward..1 year plus later..and living in sin..he said that something was fighting against our being together and that if we were married that we wouldn't have as much..well, the confrontations that appeared to cause us splitting. I filed for divorce, but wanted to make sure that I did not cheat my children. He left September 30, came back 3 weeks later, left November 13th, and did not spend any of the holidays with me nor has he texted or called (besides Thanksgiving eve for 3 hours-text message dispute on Thanks giving morning-Called Dec 2nd I did not answer until the 4th in which he was with someone and discreetly said he would call but never did) I erased his number and all messages to not call him and I haven't heard from him since. This made me fall prostrate before God asking for forgiveness and at first praying that he call or text. I prayed for understanding. For closure. Then after a while I just wanted to not hurt or be in pain. I prayed for strength to get up and take my kids to school and care for them, that simple task was hard. I did not have anyone to talk to for support, family members turned on me (not because of this-I didn't share with family-never was close to family-there's no spiritual deepness in Christ from family to share my problems with). I fasted for 21 days, prayed studied (now just to repent and seek God and what he have me to do-just want the hurt and pain to go away) Just want vision and perspective for my life because over that year he and I dreamed together, planned and started business plans together, etc. In this wilderness, I saw how I was in sin and error. I saw idols that I made. I saw pride and the pride of life and even lust. The enemy came to steal, kill, and destroy. By the time this man left...I did not feel the value I held before I opened myself to him. It's like I'm not sure who I am. The enemy torment me by telling me that I lost out and let my blessing slip through my hands. He tell me that God sent me a husband and my actions forfeitted(sp?) my blessing and now someone else may get what was for me. Saints, pray for me. I've felt suicidal, have been taking sleeping pills around the clock to not think. I have to go to bed with Christian sermons playing because I fight in the night with principalities and powers (through studying I've learned that it's such demons like spirit husband). I know that I belong to Christ, I rededicated my life and now things are surfacing for me to get rid of them and renounce them. I feel like I'm in the wilderness and I wish that I had a seasoned Saint to fellowship with. I've been asking God to restore me and for a seven fold return on everything Satan has stolen from me (Proverbs 6:31). I feel like Paul when he said that he was pressed on every side (2 Corinthians 7:8). My child is having issues at school where i had to involve the school board, my aunt persecuted and lied on me, etc. I know that what the devil meant for my harm that God will turn it around for my good. I also know that the father loved me enough to chastise me and correct me-I'm thankful to have not died in my sin. Still, pray for me that God give me perspective and strength and restore and build me greater than what I was before. I want companionship-a husband who loves God and who know his calling and purpose. Pray for me Saints-God Bless You!