Hi, I kind of talked about this already but didn't quite make it a post per se. Sorry if it seems repetitive but I hope to make it a little different.
I'll use the following abbreviations:
Home Parish: HP
Farther-Away Parish: FP
I'm going through some sort of hell. It's actually been going on for months, but I wasn't as accountable for my sins before baptism/confirmation, but it's more of a serious issue now than it was then, because of that. My HP has prospects of actually being my church home and the building block for possible fellowship. The problem is, I have been struggling with "limerence" for the HP priest from the earliest moments of meeting him. In order to calm down any impure thoughts I had been plagued with, I went to my first confession the week after baptism/confirmation, then went to a FP for three consecutive Saturdays. I ended up becoming fond of the FP priest's homilies very much, maybe even more so than the HP priest I'm limerent for. However, the FP priest does not cause me to sin or potentially sin. I hope it stays that way of course, but going to the FP had been helping my mind feel cleaner against the HP priest. I kept thinking about the HP priest often, but not necessarily mortally sinned, which was a relief. Against my better judgment, I thought I was missing the reverent Mass of my HP, which the FP didn't seem to have as much of. As soon as I came back to the HP on the fourth Saturday, I felt like my fixation on the HP priest got stronger again. I can tentatively say that I'm not mortally sinning, but am at the point where I'm starting to question whether I am or not. That to me seems like a bad sign and I felt kind of guilty receiving Communion.
What’s adding insult to injury is that starting on June 15 and going through December 25, HP will be having a few “100-year anniversary activities” which will involve some fellowship of course and that could dig a deeper hole because I might not how to get out of them. I don't want to look like I'm avoiding fellowship with them either. The people I've met at RCIA seem to care that I'm lonely and don't want me not to have a Church family. I wish I could clear my brain again and not go to HP at least until June 15, but I'm not optimistic that even if I came back on June 15, that it would help against my limerence for HP priest.
The HP is the ideal place IMHO for me to be a member and call it my church home, but it seems like there's this awful thing preventing me from doing that, by dangling the source of sin in front of me every time I'm in the HP. The FP's priest actually has better homilies IMHO so it's not necessarily because of the HP priest that I want to stay at HP; it's just that the FP just does not feel like home at all. My memories were made at HP during RCIA and Easter Vigil and I don't want to leave HP because of this. It's hard. I'm also tired of feeling I have to confess this particular sin once every week or two weeks.
I'll use the following abbreviations:
Home Parish: HP
Farther-Away Parish: FP
I'm going through some sort of hell. It's actually been going on for months, but I wasn't as accountable for my sins before baptism/confirmation, but it's more of a serious issue now than it was then, because of that. My HP has prospects of actually being my church home and the building block for possible fellowship. The problem is, I have been struggling with "limerence" for the HP priest from the earliest moments of meeting him. In order to calm down any impure thoughts I had been plagued with, I went to my first confession the week after baptism/confirmation, then went to a FP for three consecutive Saturdays. I ended up becoming fond of the FP priest's homilies very much, maybe even more so than the HP priest I'm limerent for. However, the FP priest does not cause me to sin or potentially sin. I hope it stays that way of course, but going to the FP had been helping my mind feel cleaner against the HP priest. I kept thinking about the HP priest often, but not necessarily mortally sinned, which was a relief. Against my better judgment, I thought I was missing the reverent Mass of my HP, which the FP didn't seem to have as much of. As soon as I came back to the HP on the fourth Saturday, I felt like my fixation on the HP priest got stronger again. I can tentatively say that I'm not mortally sinning, but am at the point where I'm starting to question whether I am or not. That to me seems like a bad sign and I felt kind of guilty receiving Communion.
What’s adding insult to injury is that starting on June 15 and going through December 25, HP will be having a few “100-year anniversary activities” which will involve some fellowship of course and that could dig a deeper hole because I might not how to get out of them. I don't want to look like I'm avoiding fellowship with them either. The people I've met at RCIA seem to care that I'm lonely and don't want me not to have a Church family. I wish I could clear my brain again and not go to HP at least until June 15, but I'm not optimistic that even if I came back on June 15, that it would help against my limerence for HP priest.
The HP is the ideal place IMHO for me to be a member and call it my church home, but it seems like there's this awful thing preventing me from doing that, by dangling the source of sin in front of me every time I'm in the HP. The FP's priest actually has better homilies IMHO so it's not necessarily because of the HP priest that I want to stay at HP; it's just that the FP just does not feel like home at all. My memories were made at HP during RCIA and Easter Vigil and I don't want to leave HP because of this. It's hard. I'm also tired of feeling I have to confess this particular sin once every week or two weeks.
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