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in a bad place - worthless

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Lily76_, Nov 26, 2017.

  1. Lily76_

    Lily76_ pro life christian Supporter

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    I feel in a very bad place right now ,i cant even say what is wrong my mental health is getting to the point where i feel confused about everything i want to help my self one moment then another moment i want to be damaging to myself its the self hate i have for myself
    i am screaming for help one moment then the next moment am hurting myself and everyone around me my husband is in tears most of the time because of choices iam making to hurt myself more and more
    I cant stop this i have tried to right now i cant stand myself really want to harm myself in some way but there isn't anything i can use to hurt myself and its not just doing it psychically it also mentally as well
    I hate myself and i feel no love for myself at all

    i cant see why anyone would want to love me am worthless
     
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  2. brinny

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    :heart: Praying Lily (((hug)))
     
  3. W2L

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    I feel worthless too.
     
  4. THE W

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    You need professional help for such a predicament.
     
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  5. Apjrlmcd

    Apjrlmcd New Member

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    Well, proffesional help is a way, you can also talk to a priest, but the key is to be patient, and to never lose hope, you are feeling bad now, but it doesnt have to be like that in future.
     
  6. paul1149

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    The devil is a master at telling partial truths. He points out our flaws and failings, and usually he has an abundant supply to choose from. What he never points out though, is how highly Christ must have valued us in order for Him to be willing to submit to the Cross. He did it, we are told, "for the joy set before Him" - that is, for the joy of having us reconciled back to the Father, in wonderful eternal union with Him forever.

    The Cross is the measuring stick of God's love for us. Every agony there signifies our value in His eyes. At any time Jesus could have gotten off that cross, but He held on to the end - for us. One of Michael Card's songs says He really didn't have to be nailed to the cross - His love would have held Him there.

    What you are experiencing is what Paul calls the "old man", the valuation the fallen world has imprinted on you. It has been superseded by a higher authority, the ultimate authority - Authority himself. You are accepted in the Beloved. You are a new man, created in righteousness and true holiness.

    I would suggest you tag the negative thoughts as no longer appropriate to who you now are in Him, and begin to enter the rest the Lord has, in love, prepared for you by His completed work on the Cross.
     
  7. I'm_Sorry

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    Hi Lilly,

    Capture every thought and bring them into the obedience of Christ Jesus.

    2 Corinthians 10:5
    5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;

    God loves you and you're not worthless.

    John 3:16
    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

    Life is in Christ Jesus.

    John 12:25-26
    25 Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life. 26 Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be. My Father will honor the one who serves me.

    John 14:6
    Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

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    P.S the below may help.

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    With each voice/thought that comes to you, bring it into the obedience of Christ Jesus, pray to God and ask Him to rebuke the devil and all his works over your life in Christ Jesus name.

    Don't own these thoughts, they're the devil and his workers trying to get you to remain in fear for your salvation, keep you paranoid and in the fear of death and condemnation.

    Romans 8:1
    There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus


    Jesus paid the price for your sins, there is nothing that will separate you from His love for you.

    Romans 8:38-39
    38 For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, 39 nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.


    Confess your sins to Him and He will forgive you, purify you from all unrighteousness.

    1 John 1:9
    "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."


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    "Put on the whole armour of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil."


    Ephesians 6:10-18
    10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
    14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—



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    Matthew 5:33-37
    33 “Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform your oaths to the Lord.’ 34 But I say to you, do not swear at all: neither by heaven, for it is God’s throne; 35 nor by the earth, for it is His footstool; nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. 36 Nor shall you swear by your head, because you cannot make one hair white or black. 37 But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.


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    Be free in Him, He is Faithful and forgives you. Keep in prayer, Fight the Good fight.

    1 Timothy 6:12
    "Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses."


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    Focus on Jesus at all times, remember we don't eat bread alone but by every word that proceedeth from the mouth of God.

    Put on an Audio Bible and be filled with His Holy Spirit and nourished by His Word.
     
  8. Lily76_

    Lily76_ pro life christian Supporter

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    i cant see what my loves ones and others see about me
    i really want to hurt myself i haven't self injured in weeks
    I want love from people but i dont think am worth any love
    if people who have done much worse than me can feel love and feel there worth love
    why i cant i see it JESUS DIED FOR ME AND I SHOULD BE LIVING MY LIFE TO THE FULLEST AS LIFE IS A GIFT BUT FOR SOME REASON I DONT EVEN THINK AM WORTH LIFE
    what is wrong with me i hate myself so much I WANT HELP i talk to my pastor he has been seeing me for months now he says i have friends am a good person but am not a good person i never had friend at school people just treated me like crap my home life was hell but am now 40 nearly 41 and my life has gotten better and i have friends and i have my husband i cant see what they see I CANT SEE WHAT JESUS SEES IN ME I feel everyone would be better off with out me here thats the way i feel like
    MANY DONT GET A CHANCE OF LIFE i dont want to die but i dont want to feel this pain anymore
    sorry
     
  9. Winken

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    You've been with CF for a while, Lily. Any of us told you you are worthless? I pray not. We are inhabited by the Holy Spirit. Our words, thoughts and deeds are to come from Him. I'm thinking there is a mental influence here that needs the attention of an M.D. You and yours think about that.
     
  10. Gracia Singh

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    Sweetheart, Jesus loves you so much. What does He see in you? A beautiful, unique, lovely little daughter for whom He died.

    Someone above mentioned that Satan often tells half-truths. That is correct. It is true that we make mistakes, sin, and fall, but it is untrue that our failings make us beyond God's mercy, love, and saving power. You are loved. When you feel consumed by despair, sin, grief, worry, or doubt, do one thing. Ask God to forgive you for any actual sin in your life, ask His help to root out and repent of all sin, and then pray for others, too. Praying for others takes our attention away from our selves, and by God's grace helps us feel for and begin to love others, instead of hate, pity, or despise ourselves.

    God bless you, and Christ bless you. Look to Jesus, look to and adore Christ. He loves you, dear, and can work through you in amazing ways.
     
  11. Gracia Singh

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    Also, no one would be better off without you. That is foolish, Satanic thinking.

    I rarely share details of my personal life on-line. But for your sake, I'm going to.

    Several days ago, my little brother, George, took his own life. He was 22 years old. My mother is absolutely devastated. Her heart is absolutely crushed. In all likelihood, my depressed, struggling brother also felt that everyone would be better off without him.

    Especially if you are hearing voices, as he did, seek psychiatric, spiritual, and emotional help. God loves you, Lily. Please don't go for the lie that you are beyond God's mercy, or that He does not love you.
     
  12. I'm_Sorry

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    Lilly, I'm walking through some of your thoughts to try help out:

    The hurting by your hand only relieves the tension/chaotic thoughts/feelings the devil has put you under, the path to freedom is surrendering and following Jesus Christ.

    The devil has been feeding you lies about who you are.

    Who you are: A daughter of God in Christ Jesus.

    What you are: A daughter of God being transformed into His Image.

    2 Corinthians 3:18
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    But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.

    God loves you/us while we were His enemy

    Romans 5:8-11
    8 But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. 9 Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. 10 For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. 11 And not only that, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation.

    Don't compare yourself to others

    Galatians 6:4-6
    4 But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. 5 For each one shall bear his own load.

    Follow Jesus.

    John 21:20-22
    20 Then Peter, turning around, saw the disciple whom Jesus loved following, who also had leaned on His breast at the supper, and said, “Lord, who is the one who betrays You?” 21 Peter, seeing him, said to Jesus, “But Lord, what about this man?”
    22 Jesus said to him, “If I will that he remain till I come, what is that to you? You follow Me.”

    Luke 7:47
    "Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little."

    "[Jesus] said to them all, 'If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it." Luke 9:23-24

    Follow Him and He will show you, surrender to Him and allow Him to transform you.

    The devil has placed a spirit of heaviness over you, turn to Christ Jesus who is the light of the world and pray your heart out to Him.

    E.g. of Pray:

    Lord Christ Jesus, I don't want to die, I don't want to feel this pain, I want to know why you love me, I want to be free from this anxiety, depression, fear, hatred of myself. Please Lord, deliver me from the evil one, teach me to love as you love me, in your Holy name Amen.
     
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  13. Lily76_

    Lily76_ pro life christian Supporter

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    thank you all for replying am feeling very depressed right now ...to the point of going over ways to kill myself in my head its madness thank you for your prayers
    am not going to go through with these plans its like the devil is in my head telling me things that are not good for me at all
    Gracia am so sorry about your brother

    right now am listing to a Christian radio station music helps me a lot and right now i think i should be thinking of Jesus more than ever now
    I am praying i need help from Jesus i am focusing on him the devil wants me to die he puts thoughs in my head he whispers in my ear giving me the thoughts and voices i have
    i must not listen to the devil going to focus on Jesus

    Please Jesus help me i think while i listen to the music Christmas Music am thinking of Jesus
    and THE LOVE OF JESUS AND WHAT JESUS DONE FOR US ALL ON THE CROSS

    i just need to keep fighting the devil who is in my head

    thank you all for your kind words and prayers please keep praying for me

    ONE THING THE DEVIL WILL NEVER HAVE IS THE LOVE OF JESUS CHRIST
     
  14. Gracia Singh

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    Yep. You've done an incredibly wise and good thing, and I.D.'d these voices as Satan / demonic. Good.

    Now with the divine mercy, love, power, holiness, and authority of Christ, you can begin to fight back. If there is any major sin in your life, pray for strength and grace to let that go. Stay focused on Christ, on His mercy, love, power, and grace. Lean on Him.

    He is bigger than our strongest-seeming enemy.
     
  15. Lily76_

    Lily76_ pro life christian Supporter

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    i want to start to fight this i have always been a very negative person there are short burst of positive stuff but normally it dont hold me for long i cant seem to stay positive for very long but if i hold on listen to Jesus listen to him and stay with him sometimes i can feel him hold me i want to feel him hold me always maybe there is something wrong with me maybe the devil has me I DONT WANT THE DEVIL TO HAVE ME I WANT JESUS TO HAVE ME JESUS IS MY LORD
    I have to fight the devil i cant just give up he wants me to give up i need to remind myself of Jesus and listen to christian music keeping his word reading the bible and praying to him and holding on to him
     
  16. Gracia Singh

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    That is exactly how you have to fight. Take the battle against sin, despair, sorrow, and Satan one step at a time. Hold on to Christ. I have felt the same way several times in the past few years. It is a massively awful feeling, but at the same time it is just that; a feeling, not reality. And feelings can be conquered, subjected to the Spirit of Christ, and beaten down.
     
  17. lastofall

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    Consider these who came to realize their status:
    John the Baptist saying I am unworthy to even stoop down and unloosen His shoe latches.
    Peter saying Depart from me for I am a sinful man O Lord.
    The centurion saying I am unworthy that He should enter under my roof.
    And Paul saying I am less than the least of all saints.

    The point being that humility is the chief virtue of them that believe.
     
  18. Lily76_

    Lily76_ pro life christian Supporter

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    self injured last night while my husband was sleeping , messed up in a real mess wrists this time
    i cant cope but my psych isnt doing anything about getting me therapy going to one of the church groups tonight feel low ...i cant stop hating myself
     
  19. Apjrlmcd

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    Please dont injure yourself, seek solution, pray, read self help books, go to church group, maybe other psych, but dont injure yourself
     
  20. ToBeLoved

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    Have you felt better in the past when you had another Psychiatrist or were on other medications?

    P.S. You are NOT WORTHLESS my dear. You just feel that way, but feelings can often be very wrong.
     
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