And I feel like I just can't take it any more. All of my friends now are married and have kids, and then there is me, single with no prospects out there at all, and I don't know how to change it.
I'm 35 years old, educated and I have a good and successful career. I'm healthy, I'm not violent, I don't smoke or do drugs and I have never been in trouble with the law. I often ask what more do I need to do? I am not only single but I have never even had a girlfriend. My whole life I have been painfully shy around women. I get nervous and my lack of self-confidence really shows. I don't even know how to try and I end up telling myself not to even bother. It drives me up the wall when I see other guys who seem to so easily find a girlfriend or a wife.
And the thing is, the longer you are single at this age, the more the problem seems to feed off of itself. People will wonder aloud if I am gay, or assume that there must be something wrong with me because I have been single for so long, and then I start to believe that I am not worthy of any woman's love because I have been single for so long. Then I tell myself that there must be something wrong with me that makes me unworthy of any woman's love. I don't seek to blame anyone other than myself for this, but I am really upset about this some days. There are nights when I cry myself to sleep because of this. I am not happy being alone. I want to be in love with a woman and I want her to be in love with me.
I have looked to God for help since becoming a Christian earlier this year. If it is not his will that I be with anyone here on Earth, sometimes I allow myself to imagine that maybe he will match me up with the woman of my dreams in the afterlife.
I'm 35 years old, educated and I have a good and successful career. I'm healthy, I'm not violent, I don't smoke or do drugs and I have never been in trouble with the law. I often ask what more do I need to do? I am not only single but I have never even had a girlfriend. My whole life I have been painfully shy around women. I get nervous and my lack of self-confidence really shows. I don't even know how to try and I end up telling myself not to even bother. It drives me up the wall when I see other guys who seem to so easily find a girlfriend or a wife.
And the thing is, the longer you are single at this age, the more the problem seems to feed off of itself. People will wonder aloud if I am gay, or assume that there must be something wrong with me because I have been single for so long, and then I start to believe that I am not worthy of any woman's love because I have been single for so long. Then I tell myself that there must be something wrong with me that makes me unworthy of any woman's love. I don't seek to blame anyone other than myself for this, but I am really upset about this some days. There are nights when I cry myself to sleep because of this. I am not happy being alone. I want to be in love with a woman and I want her to be in love with me.
I have looked to God for help since becoming a Christian earlier this year. If it is not his will that I be with anyone here on Earth, sometimes I allow myself to imagine that maybe he will match me up with the woman of my dreams in the afterlife.