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I'm antisocial...

Discussion in 'General Mental Health' started by Angeleyes7715, Feb 13, 2018.

  1. Angeleyes7715

    Angeleyes7715 Well-Known Member

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    So apparently it's not just social anxiety, but I'm also just antisocial.

    It makes feel pretty awful that I'm this way and that other people are so put off by it. I just usually don't have much of an interest in other people.

    I have reasons I'm this way and I'm not antisocial 24/7.

    1. Forced social interaction makes me angry which is why I don't enjoy talking with coworkers.

    2. I spend a lot of time thinking about problems I need to solve and unwanted social interaction interrupts my thoughts.

    3. I don't want anything from or find the people who I'm around at that moment interesting enough to interact with and any effort spent talking would be wasted mental energy.

    The thing I don't get is I have no issue starting conversations with random people I find interesting so it's not like I'm completely bad at socializing I'm just extremely picky about who I talk to.

    I don't think it's fair people treat me like my personality is bad because I have this trait. God himself was quiet. Maybe not for the same reasons as me but it can't be that big of a crime to not be a social butterfly.
     
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  2. R. Hartono

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    We are called to share Jesus love and compassion with others so you must look at others with compassion instead of looking into your self only, we are created as social being, God gives the earth for all mankind, so share.
     
  3. timewerx

    timewerx the village i--o--t--

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    Nope, not all the time and not with everyone. Read the Bible more closely. At times, Jesus looked at people with anger. At times, He avoided them. At times He spoke in parables so that some people will NOT understand his speech. At times, He even dealt with certain people using violence.

    Jesus also avoided certain types of people - the fools, scoffers, slanderers, hypocrites, greedy, etc. Although some of these followed Jesus around like Judas and some of the religious authorities, Jesus didn't take to them very kindly.

    God does not give the Earth to all mankind, He will destroy those who destroy Earth (in Revelation) those who has no respect for His creation and only follows greed.
     
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  4. Tom Farebrother

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    I think there are 3 truisms that relate to this -
    1) We are all different, and that is how God designed things. He wants it that way.
    2) The only way to live truthfully and fully is to draw near to God. That brings about a long and sometimes very difficult
    process of becoming more like God
    3) Many people are far too quick to define what that means in terms of their own cultural norms and perceptions.
     
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  5. Mountainmike

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    I too am a loner by nature, I suspect i might have become a desert hermit had circumstance been different.


    It seems to me You are not obliged to start conversations, but the question is what happens when others speak to you, are you warm or cold? Do you radiate love of neighbour?

    Mother Teresa , whose charism was the poorest of poor, once said that the greatest poverty she saw was not in those deprived of material things in the third world, but those deprived of the warmth of social contact in the west.

    So for some of those who speak to you, the only social contact they have is work, and otherwise their personal situation can be dire, but hidden, so work interaction is all they have.

    When our lord says in sheep and goats. ." I was thirsty" it perhaps means not just for physical drink, but also thirsty for the warmth of human contact and love.

    Philippians 2 3-4 warns of not acting selfishly putting others ahead of yourself. Is not judging others as not interesting or worthy of conversation a conceit?


    Just food for thought and to bear in mind, that's all.





     
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  6. Hall

    Hall God is good

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    Some of us have an introverted personality and its ok.
     
  7. once was lost

    once was lost New Member Supporter

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    Myers-Briggs classes us as INTP, which they posit comprises 3% of the population (here is what they have to say...

    Explore This Type

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    INTP PERSONALITY (“THE LOGICIAN”)
    Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning.)

    It is good to have an INTP around for a lot of reasons...
     
  8. R. Hartono

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    Matt 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Do not even tax collectors do the same?
     
  9. timewerx

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    Yes, I agree.

    But I'd like to clarify that loving our enemies or evildoers isn't always done with a good face, kind and polite words.

    If Jesus spoke nicely to the merchants at the temple, would they realize what they are doing is wrong?

    But Jesus had to drive them away with a whip made of cords and overturned their tables. Jesus drove them away violently. They learned their lesson. They won't sell at the temple again.... Which is good not only to everyone else but also to themselves, for the sake of their souls, am I right?

    That hostile act that Jesus showed those merchants might eventually save them which will be good for them. You love by not showing tolerance to evil.
     
  10. R. Hartono

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    Could you give an example ?
     
  11. timewerx

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    I already gave you an example from the Bible.

    Merchants selling their goods at the temple which is an act of evil. So Jesus drove them away violently to show He doesn't tolerate evil.

    Another example is Jesus harshly (and in anger) rebutting the Jews who tried to catch Jesus breaking a religious rule. Jesus had to break one of their rules to do what is right and what is merciful.

    Jesus even told some Jews their father is the devil when these Jews tried to slander Him.

    These heated discussions between Christ and some Jews and some religious authorities eventually led the Jews to plot to kill Him which ended up in His crucifixion.

    This is all in the Bible.

    Why Jesus was nicer with the adulterer is because she was fairly innocent of the circumstances that led to her sin. The religious authorities had more accountability in this matter since they could have done more to change circumstances of people but their love (greed) of money and power kept them from doing what is right.
     
  12. Angeleyes7715

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    I'm actually INTJ and an INTJ female at that which is 0.8% of the population.
     
  13. once was lost

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    i stand corrected! great to meet you!
     
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