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I'm going to disagree with this advice - unless, of course, the parents are serial killers, violent, sexually abusive, or something else relevant that is not in evidence.Given the circumstances you describe, I recommend stopping all contact.
Don't hate them, but stay away from them. Luke 14:26. He doesn't mean that you actively *hate* them, but your love for relatives will *feel* like hate in comparison to your love for Christ. If you have to chose between them and Him, by all means, choose Him.
They, and others, will tell you it's because you're being hateful and won't forgive. This isn't true. You're not doing it in any way to punish or get back at them. You have to protect yourself from any further damage.
I'm in the same boat. I have to stay away from members of my family because they would interfere with my walk with the Lord, and He comes first.
Abandoning one's parents is hate. Plain and simple.
Hey, I had a parent abandon the family, while a sibling was dying. Don't tell me that I don't get it. Today though, I would still have taken care of that parent if it was necessary (now deceased). But that parent would have gotten an earful, no doubt.
The better route is to learn how to communicate and explain how you feel, listen to each other, and attempt to bring restoration. Or at least civility. Most adults can achieve at least civility. Disagreement is not hate.
There aren't any second chances when they are gone. I will never forget how my friend once told me that at funerals, the ones crying and carrying on the most, and throwing themselves over the casket are the ones who were not there for Mom or Dad in life.
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