I'm feeling worse about this every day. In my heart, I want the parish that I was confirmed in, to be my church home. I loved my RCIA class and it was a beautiful, memorable experience to become a member of the Church through this parish. I haven't made any additional friends beyond my sponsor and RCIA director (I wish I felt like this would happen), but there are "faces" that are knowing my face, and I like that for starters. But I feel better being away from this pastor in the sense that my brain feels cleaner and freer from mortal sin.
Being away from him doesn't stop me from missing him when I know that there is a Mass going on at his parish and I'm at another one. I don't feel that any other parish will be home for me, and this priest is not even the primary contributing factor, because other priests can be friendly too, and give good homilies like him. However, a part of me is more relaxed too, because I don't have to deal with this sin anymore if I'm not at the home parish. Sure, it's not the end of my sins, but it was a big piece of the pie.
I think what my real problem is that I probably won't have blood family to be there for me when I'm older and the church family will be my only shot at having any "family," and I don't see how anyone will eventually make me an honorary member of their family. No one in the pews (no matter the parish) knows this pain I'm suffering. I'd almost rather stay at the church where the "faces" are starting to know me, but I'd have to exchange that for constantly sinning about the pastor. It seems like an impossible situation for me. Other parishes have their qualities, their beauty, etc. but I feel like I'm looking for something that is impossible - a people who will regard me as family. It hurts.
It kind of feels like a "would you rather lose those you are getting to know, or lose your soul" thing.
Being away from him doesn't stop me from missing him when I know that there is a Mass going on at his parish and I'm at another one. I don't feel that any other parish will be home for me, and this priest is not even the primary contributing factor, because other priests can be friendly too, and give good homilies like him. However, a part of me is more relaxed too, because I don't have to deal with this sin anymore if I'm not at the home parish. Sure, it's not the end of my sins, but it was a big piece of the pie.
I think what my real problem is that I probably won't have blood family to be there for me when I'm older and the church family will be my only shot at having any "family," and I don't see how anyone will eventually make me an honorary member of their family. No one in the pews (no matter the parish) knows this pain I'm suffering. I'd almost rather stay at the church where the "faces" are starting to know me, but I'd have to exchange that for constantly sinning about the pastor. It seems like an impossible situation for me. Other parishes have their qualities, their beauty, etc. but I feel like I'm looking for something that is impossible - a people who will regard me as family. It hurts.
It kind of feels like a "would you rather lose those you are getting to know, or lose your soul" thing.