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If You Have Been Thru Any Kind Of Abuse Pls Participate Here...(Moved)

Discussion in 'Trauma, PTSD & Dissociation' started by LilBoo, Apr 15, 2007.

  1. awi

    awi New Member

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    I was abused by 3 fam. members. I detest them all. My fam. is christian. Christians also goof up sometimes. I am a believer.
    awi
     
  2. Taylor43

    Taylor43 Jesus loves everyone!

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    please add me i was molested as a child and lots of other abuse. I will pray for all of us who have been abused
     
  3. cookiebaker

    cookiebaker Member

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    hello,
    you can also add me to list....i grew up in alcoholic home, also it was emotionally void, my mother was/is a sociopathic type personality who was not able to show/give/recieive love, even to her chldren. ALthough my dad stopped drinking, nothing was every resolved and my f amily is falling apart. My mom and dad continue to prop up the story that everything was fine growing up, and there was no problem. they do not take responsiblity or admit what they did.
     
  4. Katya

    Katya Regular Member

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    There is a pasage in a book which unfortunately I can't remember what it was called, or who it was by, but I remember this passage. I kept reading it over and over again, and it has helped me over the years.

    For the longest time, I didn't think what happened to me was all that bad. I was molested by my brother from a young age. I don't really remember much now, but I can honestly say that I forgive him. I used to think it was because he died 17 years ago this thursday. I miss him. I really do. Because aside from the abuse, as I got older, he was a great brother.

    So here is the passage. I don't remember it word for word anymore. Maybe it's because I've learnt to forgive, so I don't need to say it anymore.

    God bless. :hug:

    There is no such thing as worse abuse. People react differently to different circumstances. One person may be completely traumatized by a single experience with fondling, while another can recover rapidly by an extremely violent rape. To say to a recovering *survivor, that wasn't that bad, puts them on the defensive and is completely counter-productive to their healing.

    *I replace victim with survivor as the men and women on this forum are suvivors.
     
  5. MydaughterMyfriend

    MydaughterMyfriend Active Member

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    I was abused also.
     
  6. hazeleyes80

    hazeleyes80 Contributor

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    Please add me.

    I was verbally abused by my father (got called lazy, stupid, told that I would never amount to anything, got called names that I cannot post on a Christian forum, etc.). I'm having a hard time forgiving him for it.

    I got spiritually abused by my mother & church that I belonged to. (brought up believing that if I messed up, God would "get me" - basically grew up believing that God wouldn't love me unless I was perfect and that He's impossible to please) No, I don't believe that anymore, but I"m having a hard time forgiving my mother for it.

    Verbal abuse from my father opened me up to a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship with an ex-boyfriend. He also cheated on me. His abuse and cheating made it difficult to trust men, and I'm having a hard time forgiving him for it and my father for leaving me vulnerable to it after the abuse he committed.

    All of these things still affect me today, even though I realize that those people were wrong to do what they did. The grudges I'm holding and the lack of forgiveness is affecting me physically, mentally, spiritually, and are hurting my relationship with the man I love and hope to marry.
     
  7. bricks00usa

    bricks00usa Veteran

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    My abuse continues I am afraid to say anything. sometimes I hope he dies so my pain will stop.
     
  8. MamaChris

    MamaChris Please Read My Blog

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    Lifting this ministry up in prayer
     
  9. shazabella

    shazabella Senior Veteran

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    Praying

    - Shaz
     
  10. bricks00usa

    bricks00usa Veteran

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    CF is the only place I ever told anyone about my abuse. The man who abused me was killed in a car accident last Friday night. I am just sick over this. I am totally confused.
     
  11. Bianca01

    Bianca01 Regular Member

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    Hi bricks00usa,

    Please don't feel bad about wishing him dead. You have no control over that and this is totally a coincidence. I too have wished my abuser dead. It must be a common response. What he did to you is totally his responsibility.

    I think now is the time... let the healing begin.

    :prayer: :prayer: :prayer:
     
  12. jessa92627

    jessa92627 New Member

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    At the young age of 15yrs I got myself into a terrible realtionship that became abusive, finally after marriagae and 4 children, i got the strength through God to leave, but not before my children were also victims of abuse. Please add myself and children as well to yor prayer list.
     
  13. UnitynLove

    UnitynLove Guest

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    You can count me in
     
  14. LilBoo

    LilBoo Well-Known Member

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    I have.
     
  15. bricks00usa

    bricks00usa Veteran

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    Coincidence? Or the power of God? The only time anyone knew about my problems, and prayed for me was on this forum. I believe it was Gods will to have him ended in the most heinous of ways. Even though he put things in me, and shocked me, I now miss those acts.
    Praying took him away but praying has not filled the empty void I am left with now.
     
  16. Bianca01

    Bianca01 Regular Member

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    Hi bricks00usa,

    Sometimes when people die we focus only on the good part of them (however small that part is) and tend to make things that they did wrong, "Not so bad." I don't know who this person was to you. It does sound like you are grieving and confused.

    Take time for yourself to process everything you've been through. I think it's hard for you to feel the anger towards this person because they are dead. When you are ready it might be a good idea to write them a letter expressing everything you are feeling. Then rip it up or burn it. You will need to get the anger out at sometime. A punching bag is another good idea. Think of ways to let go.

    Take care

    :prayer: :prayer: :prayer:
     
  17. Katie7725

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    after my father died my step dad raped me twice when I was 8, It has been a long time since I have talked about this.
     
  18. Katie7725

    Katie7725 Regular Member

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    just forget I even posted that, that chapter of my life is over and I never want to think about it ever again.
     
  19. Bianca01

    Bianca01 Regular Member

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    Oh Katie, I won't forget what you just posted. You deserve a better life and I think working through the anger of the sexual abuse will help you. It really touched my heart and I will pray for you.

    :prayer: :prayer: :prayer:
     
  20. shazabella

    shazabella Senior Veteran

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    Please pray for my friend's family situation; its all a huge horrible mess

    - Shaz
     
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