If someone could please help

[Isserty_Dawn]

My sister lived with my husband and me after my mother died. She went to church with us and told us that she was a Christian. Some of her actions spoke otherwise but because she said that she was and because I believe that that is between her and God I didn't really think otherwise. Then when she moved out on her own she really turned the other way. She has turned promiscuous, reckless, and very unfeeling towards anyone but herself. At first everyone( includidng myself ) thought that it was just because she was out on her own for the first time. But it has really gotten out of hand and I have wondered if she only said that she was saved so that the church wouldn't say anything to her that she didn't want to hear. She really likes the thought of ghosts and supernatural powers. I don't know what to do. She doesn't want to talk about God in anyway and will get very angry when He is brought up. She is extreamly hurtful towards me. My husband doesn't want me to talk to her because of how she treats me, but she is my sister and I love her and don't want to turn my back on her especially if there is a chance that things might change. I really don't know what to do and need a second or third opinion on this. Please. It would be greatly appreciated

 

[xenia]

Hi Dawn, this must really break your heart.

I think, at this point, all you can do is be a good example for her and pray pray pray. These are the kinds of prayers the Lord delights in answering.

If she perceives talking about God as nagging, better stop for the time-being. As St. Francis once said, "Preach the Gospel at all times. Use words if you have to."

Love, Xenia

 

[ClaireZ]

Sometimes we just have to let people find God in their own time and their own way. She has received the truth, now it is up to her to act on it.


I have seen the same thing but much worse with my own sister. It really hurts to watch her ruin her life, and the lives of her children, but those are her choices.

All you can do is continue to love her, pray, and leave the rest to God.

 

[Evie]

Sometimes we just have to let people find God in their own time and their own way. She has received the truth, now it is up to her to act on it.


I have seen the same thing but much worse with my own sister. It really hurts to watch her ruin her life, and the lives of her children, but those are her choices.

All you can do is continue to love her, pray, and leave the rest to God.

same here,my older sister told me about God,now she is not living for God and wants nothing to do with Him at all. All we can do is pray sweetie!!! I do pray for your sister.

 

[ChristyP4Christ]

Sweetie my sister is lost, but if you ask her she will tell you diff. All you can do is allow her to see the Jesus in you and pray for her. Explain to your husband that he needs to do the same.
I have learn that the lost are lost and they act that way. Satan is going to do all he can to keep you from being a light to her, but put him under you feet and stomp on his old head....lol the best way to do that is by not allowing the way she is acting to bug you. Look at her as you would any lost person. Then love her to Christ. Read 1 Corinthians 18. I will keep this matter in my prayers.

 

[daisypromise]

Same here - my sister is not living as a Christian and has recently committed adultery. I am so hoping her marriage will survive.

I understand that you cannot let her go and walk out on her. You can still set boundaries with her whilst still being loving and letting her have some place in your life. You are not responsible for her but you are responsible for how you react to her. It may be useful for you to take a few days time out from her to pray and ask God what boundaries to set with her. Boundaries are hard work and can take a while to get in place - but it is worth it.
For example, you cannot stop her choosing to be involved in occult things but you can refuse to allow her tocome in your house (whilst making it clear you still love her)if she is going to practise it in there. Your sister is then free to choose what she will do.
I also think that it is something you could work through with your husband too - seeking God together on how to deal with this situation with your sister. A united front would be a great asset to you.
Hope this gets easier for you soon

 

[heartnsoul]

Excellent posts above! This is no different than a child rebelling from his/her parents. Sometimes, people (including myself) have to learn the hard way in life. Some of us are so stubborn and willful that we wander off for a while on our own path. Unfortunately, people could sometimes wander off for years...but when they fall and become broken, then hopefully we will remember that God is there to turn to. For some, it may take brokenness for them to finally allow God back into their hearts again. It's a *process* and relationships take time (including relationship with God). The best thing to do is to keep praying for your sister and let her go. Let her have the space and live her life.

If your sister is being mentally abusive or mean towards you and your husband, then you do not need to tolerate that. We should be loving people, but not doormats or martyrs for others...family members included. Keep a safe distance from her if she is destructive towards you and your family. However if she is just "lost", then still be there for her when she needs to talk. Heaven knows...according to what you described, she will need your encouragement and a shoulder to cry on someday. So turn your frustration and sister over to the Lord. May God bless you and give you patience & compassion to deal with your sister.

 

[liveforHIM]

My dear friend in Christ,

I believe inside each of us there is a dark side and a bright side, sometimes one will prevail the other. I am not sure if she went to church just because of her being afraid of people saying things she didn't want to hear. Maybe she was really seeking God but a certain negative event happened and caused her to stumble. Sometimes, people expect good things to happen when they become a Christian and when they go through trials they fail. Your friend is very likely going through some confusing time right now. I think the best thing to do is show her your love, try not to get into any disagreements, and pray hard.
Blessings,

Dear our Loving Father,

I lift my friend and her sister up to you this moment asking for your help. Please Lord, show her sister your presence and your power. Cover her with your powerful wings, bring her to your Light, and let live in your grace.

In Jesus' name. Amen

 

[TruthSetsYouFree]

My sister lived with my husband and me after my mother died. She went to church with us and told us that she was a Christian. Some of her actions spoke otherwise but because she said that she was and because I believe that that is between her and God I didn't really think otherwise. Then when she moved out on her own she really turned the other way. She has turned promiscuous, reckless, and very unfeeling towards anyone but herself. At first everyone( includidng myself ) thought that it was just because she was out on her own for the first time. But it has really gotten out of hand and I have wondered if she only said that she was saved so that the church wouldn't say anything to her that she didn't want to hear. She really likes the thought of ghosts and supernatural powers. I don't know what to do. She doesn't want to talk about God in anyway and will get very angry when He is brought up. She is extreamly hurtful towards me. My husband doesn't want me to talk to her because of how she treats me, but she is my sister and I love her and don't want to turn my back on her especially if there is a chance that things might change. I really don't know what to do and need a second or third opinion on this. Please. It would be greatly appreciated

Hi there,

It seems your sister has gotten some spiritual bondages that need to be broken. Has she ever been involved in anything along the lines of the occult, demonic, witchcraft, etc.? Has anybody in your ancestral line (parents, grandparents, great grandparents, etc.) been involved with anything of that nature? Has she ever been abused or rejected? It looks to me like the enemy has some strongholds that he's using to turn her against God and against others. Maybe if you could give me a little background on her, I could help you pinpoint where this is coming from.

When she is very fascinated with the thought of ghosts or supernatural powers, yet is very angry about talking about God; something tells me there is more going on in the spiritual realm then what meets the eye.

In Christ,
Bobby

 

[jesusismysavior]

Of course there is a chance that things will change! Ive always thought about the things in my life that needed serious adjustments, and you know what make those changes? talking and praying to God about them, and once you lift all your problems to Him, he will take care of everything. itll definitely take some time, probably not gonna happen overnight, but just keep praying for her, and trust that God himself will do something, because he will if you have faith in Him. Your sister seems to be going down the wrong direction, but still be loving towards her and keep praying for her. Ill be praying too, that things turn out alright.God Bless ya

 

[Isserty_Dawn]

Hi there,

It seems your sister has gotten some spiritual bondages that need to be broken. Has she ever been involved in anything along the lines of the occult, demonic, witchcraft, etc.? Has anybody in your ancestral line (parents, grandparents, great grandparents, etc.) been involved with anything of that nature? Has she ever been abused or rejected? It looks to me like the enemy has some strongholds that he's using to turn her against God and against others. Maybe if you could give me a little background on her, I could help you pinpoint where this is coming from.

When she is very fascinated with the thought of ghosts or supernatural powers, yet is very angry about talking about God; something tells me there is more going on in the spiritual realm then what meets the eye.

In Christ,
Bobby

At one time she dated someone who was into witchcraft but only for about a week. I'm not positive if she has done occult or demonic things. When she lived with my husband and me alot of very weird things happened that haven't happened since she left. Our pastor at the time thought that she may be a big part of the reason why they were happening but at that time I didn't even think that could be possible. I didn't think that the devil could be that overpowering to somone who was saved.
She hasn't been abused or rejected that I know of.
No one in my family that I know of has ever been involved in anything having to do with the occult or demonic activities.

 

[wayfaring man]

My sister lived with my husband and me after my mother died. She went to church with us and told us that she was a Christian. Some of her actions spoke otherwise but because she said that she was and because I believe that that is between her and God I didn't really think otherwise. Then when she moved out on her own she really turned the other way. She has turned promiscuous, reckless, and very unfeeling towards anyone but herself. At first everyone( includidng myself ) thought that it was just because she was out on her own for the first time. But it has really gotten out of hand and I have wondered if she only said that she was saved so that the church wouldn't say anything to her that she didn't want to hear. She really likes the thought of ghosts and supernatural powers. I don't know what to do. She doesn't want to talk about God in anyway and will get very angry when He is brought up. She is extreamly hurtful towards me. My husband doesn't want me to talk to her because of how she treats me, but she is my sister and I love her and don't want to turn my back on her especially if there is a chance that things might change. I really don't know what to do and need a second or third opinion on this. Please. It would be greatly appreciated

Greetings Isserty_Dawn , and all ,

But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, but in his own country, and among his own kin, and in his own house. <-----> Mark 6:4

This means we often need someone else to witness to our family members , hence we should seek to witness to another's sister or brother etc. ; while praying the Lord will send someone into our loved one's life to witnees to them as well , of the grace of God and the faith of Jesus Christ .

It's late and I haven't read all the previous posts , so pardon me if this is redundant .

One more consideration , if no positive response is made ...

And it was told him by certain which said, Thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to see thee.
And he answered and said unto them, My mother and my brethren are these which hear the word of God, and do it. <-----> Luke 8:20+21

Yet , there is still hope with the living ... God forbid that we give up while hope remains .

May The Lord Be Pleased To Bless .

wm

 

[TruthSetsYouFree]

At one time she dated someone who was into witchcraft but only for about a week. I'm not positive if she has done occult or demonic things.

Did she have any problems before she dated this guy? Did she have an unholy relationship with him? If she had an unholy relationship with him, it could have created a soul tie (1 Corinthians 6:16). A soul tie is sort of like a bridge that ties to two persons together, and can cause the spiritual bondage in one person to affect the other. The other thing I would go after is if that guy tried to place a curse or spell on her when they broke up. In either case, she needs to be broken off from that bondage.

Was there a big difference before and after she dated this guy? Did she "go downhill" since she dated this guy?

When she lived with my husband and me alot of very weird things happened that haven't happened since she left.

If it's not too graphic, what kind of weird things took place? Did you feel a spiritual heaviness while she was living with you? Did she bring any cursed objects (idols, weird symbols, etc.) home from this guy she dated? Did this guy give her anything "weird" (idol, symbol, rings, etc.)?

I didn't think that the devil could be that overpowering to somone who was saved.

If the right doors (permission) are given to the enemy in that person's life, he can do a lot of damage. Think of the devil as a big mean ugly dog on a chain; he can't hurt you unless you walk into his yard. Same thing with the devil's kingdom; as long as you don't open any doors to him, your safe. But if you open the right doors to him, you can get in trouble.

I was raised in a wonderful Christian home, love the Lord dearly, and have been a Christian ever since I was a young kid; yet I went through some extreme spiritual torment, why? Because the 'right doors' got opened. As Christians, we have a wall of protection around us, but if there's a door opened in that wall, the enemy can still bug us.

In Christ,
Bobby

 

[TheMainException]

Could be that she was a Christian, but things just changed for her...I'm feeling a bit reckless right now...a bit of a rebel...rebels don't last long...it really takes a lot out of us to be rebels...pray that when she falls she runs back to someone who can help her.