A good wife is here in the Bible: Proverbs 31:
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
This is easily translated into attributes in today's times: A virtuous woman is careful with her body.
You can trust in her to keep you safe, and confide in her and she will never run and tell all her friends about your secrets. She'll have good friends who don't want to hear that junk anyway.
She will promise to love you always and do well by you, and never do anything to sink herself into scandal or gossip.
She will clean the house and cook, and keep it lovingly. But if both of you work, nowadays, a husband has to help. Period. And help with the kids.
She makes sure you and your children have warm clothes for the winter and none ever goes cold.
She dresses well and tastefully, not seductively as to garner unwanted attention.
If she works outside the home, she brings her income into the home and helps pay bills and buy food and contributes to the household along with you to make it a stable and sound home.
She displays strength and honor, does not give into things such as undue drama and deals with unstable situations with prayer and a hushed mouth. (Hubbies should do this as well)
She is never lazy. She does not put off tomorrow what can be done today unless it's a major home improvement project she is helping you with. Those can often take a bit, when both work outside the home and have children.
She believes in discipline, as should you, and your children will appreciate it later on by being responsible, successful and hard-working adults on their own and not inmates in the documentaries on YouTube. You do not want to see your child there.
Remember physical beauty never lasts forever; inside beauty lasts forever. A Godly woman who loves the Lord and loves you is one to be revered, for she will treat you lovingly and with God's kindness.
Be complimentary of her and support her in her good endeavors. Remember, kind words and encouragement is much easier than finding fault. Before you think to find fault with one who has these charisteristics, look in the mirror then speak to God. Remember how she has supported you.
This may be quite a bit much, but you will adapt your own interpretations to these verses, and I pray you will find a true lady who will share in your happiness and love to the end of your days.
All good things
Emmy
