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I think my mom read my diary

Discussion in 'Young Adults' started by kbee125, Jan 14, 2019.

  1. kbee125

    kbee125 Newbie

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  2. PloverWing

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    I'm so sorry. Your mom shouldn't have read your diary. That's private, and she should have respected your privacy.

    I don't want to counsel you to stop keeping a diary, because it can be helpful to put your feelings into words on paper, but you may have to find a hiding spot for the diary, or start writing your thoughts in an encrypted computer file, something like that.

    Do you have the kind of relationship with your mom in which you could talk to her directly? "Mom, you don't ever read my diary, do you?" A good talk about the kinds of privacy you need, and the kinds of protection she wants to provide for you, might help the two of you set boundaries that both of you are comfortable with. But you have to have a pretty solid relationship to have that talk.
     
  3. kbee125

    kbee125 Newbie

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    Thank you for replying :)

    I am usually really good about hiding my diary, but I just forgot to put it away that day.

    My mom and I are really close, so I could tell her that. I am just nervous because I do not want to talk about having feelings for that girl with her. I don’t want her to ask me about it or anything.
     
  4. PloverWing

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    Hmm. You might be able to talk about diary privacy without bringing up your feelings for the girl. But there is the possibility that she'll say "Yes, I'm sorry, I did read your diary last week, and I want to ask you about what you wrote", and then there's the uncomfortable conversation.

    If she asks, you could say something like "There are things I'm trying to sort out in my head right now, and I'm not ready to talk about it." Even, "Please don't ask. I need some private space in my head to figure things out, and it makes things harder if people are watching me too much." That's probably a pretty awful conversation, but it also might clear the air between you, and give you the space you need.

    You're probably the best judge of your relationship with your mom. Have the conversation if you think it'll make things better between you, but not if it'll make things worse. It's hard for me to say without having met your mom. How calm and supportive a person is she?
     
  5. kbee125

    kbee125 Newbie

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    This is really helpful. Thank you! :)

    Knowing my mom she’ll definitely want to talk about that. But I’ll just tell her that I would rather not and to please not make it awkward by watching me when she’s around.

    My mom is usually calm and supportive, so I’m sure it will be fine. It’s just going to be super awkward, but oh well.
     
  6. PloverWing

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    I'm glad your mom is supportive. I hope the conversation goes well for you. :)
     
  7. John Bowen

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    We have to remember about parents they see us as a reflection on them what we do how we behave they want to be seen as being good parents . As for having feelings you have to know cause you go to church that we aren't really humans we are spiritual souls as humans for a while . A lot of times having feelings is just your soul recognizing another soul. Even though we might think its something deeper it really isn't be friends or just send her blessings when you see her . And in a year or so that strong feeling you have will be gone .
     
  8. JacquelineDeane55

    JacquelineDeane55 Newbie

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    The other day I went with my mother to Wal Mart and bought myself a diary.

    I write sometimes in it, what goes on in my personal life and some prayers to GOD, written down upon its pages.

    It probably was not right for her to read your diary, human beings sometimes desire privacy or the need to be alone (my grandfather was A LOT like that before he died)...I have felt that way before, we can't all be social extroverts all the time...
     
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