well I would break it off entirely. I know that sounds odd. But if she is 'begging you to have premarital sex' she is not at the same spiritual level that a minister needs. Yeah it make take a minute to find another suitable partner. But don't rush to get married. Here is why, if she will sleep with you before marriage, then she will sleep with others after marriage. Marriage is not sacred anymore. If she will lie with you, she will lie to you. I messed up before marriage, but I repented and got out of that relationship. If she is not strong enough to be pure then she really is on a different spiritual level. Imagine walking up a staircase, and you are going to a higher place, and your girlfriend is behind you following you and stops in her maturity, and you have to stop too, and actually back track your progress to lift her up, you have to step down in order to get her up. Jesus does not want that for you. My first girlfriend taught me how to kiss, and got mad when I didn't persue kissing her initially, then I learned alot more than that. But we were both leaders in the youthgroup, and I got very physical, and she had to break up with me because I was so physical, but her youth pastor said that exact illustration. The thing is that I stayed in leadership, I went to Bible college and started teaching at our church, and have been to three countries on missions. That would have never happened if we just kept sinning, I would not have had my heart broken and been consoled with Christ's presence. It took another 20 years to overcome lust, but God had victory in my future. Believe me, there is alot more to lust, than just adultery, it can manifest in a host of ways. You want to nip this in the bud, get rid of her. You'll be absolutely glad you did. It may take years to realize it but God will bless your sacrifice. If you don't get rid of her, you can kiss your ministry and your whole witness, as well as your personal walk with the Lord Good bye.
