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Just talk with your friend and explain to her that you don't care for those advances. Has she always been this way towards you? or are you just noticing it more now that she has told you her preferences? It could be that you are just uncomfortable with the situation and reading into things a bit much (not saying this is true, just a possiblity).

Anyway, treat these friends the same way that you would treat any other friends. Homosexuality is not a special sin as so many Christians like to believe. People that choose to live this lifestyle are no worse then people who have pre-marital sex or something. So just treat them like you would any other friend. Remember in the eyes of God all sin is viewed the same, and we should strive to have that view as well.
 
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Folks please be careful that this doesn't turn into an ethics thread. Here are the rules pertaining to this subject:

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the thing is she's always actually been that way i just didnt suspect, but my sister found her weird and so she asked her, she admited being homosexual. And its not a matter of remaining friends with, its how do i relate with her?
 
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And its not a matter of remaining friends with, its how do i relate with her?


Umm, thats a tough one, I have never been in that situation before. Have you tried talking to your friend and explaining that the way she behaves aound you make you uncomfortable?
 
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Just ask her if she has feelings for you. Maybe she's just an affectionate person and is attracted to someone else.
If she does have feelings for you then I suppose it would be the same as if she was a guy whom you were not interested in. The same awkwardness I think would apply.
 
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Have you tried talking to your friend and explaining that the way she behaves aound you make you uncomfortable?
no i havent and thats bcoz if i tried to she would take it differently. ma mum thinks i should just break off the friendship or keep away frm her but i dono whether its such a great idea. iguess i should try talkin to her.
Just ask her if she has feelings for you. Maybe she's just an affectionate person and is attracted to someone else.
If she does have feelings for you then I suppose it would be the same as if she was a guy whom you were not interested in. The same awkwardness I think would apply.
Frankly i dont want to knw we've been friend for 2 years, i dont want to think she was intrested in me all that tym!!
 
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Have you tried talking to your friend and explaining that the way she behaves aound you make you uncomfortable?
no i havent and thats bcoz if i tried to she would take it differently. my mum thinks i should just break off the friendship or keep away frm her but i dono whether its such a great idea. iguess i should try talkin to her.
Just ask her if she has feelings for you. Maybe she's just an affectionate person and is attracted to someone else.
If she does have feelings for you then I suppose it would be the same as if she was a guy whom you were not interested in. The same awkwardness I think would apply.
Frankly i dont want to knw, we've been friend for 2 years, i dont want to think she was intrested in me all that tym!!
 
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no i havent and thats bcoz if i tried to she would take it differently. my mum thinks i should just break off the friendship or keep away frm her but i dono whether its such a great idea. iguess i should try talkin to her.
Frankly i dont want to knw, we've been friend for 2 years, i dont want to think she was intrested in me all that tym!!
Well, would it be different if she was a guy? I can't think of another way to end the mystery of how she behaves around you than to ask her.

I know it is unnerving.
 
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If you can quietly let her know that friendship is fine, but nothing more than that is that should help. If she wants to continue with the friendship on that basis accept it.

If you are healthily heterosexual you won't be drawn into anything wrong very easily. I have related to several homosexual people of both genders over the years and have really enjoyed most of them.

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I hang out with a lot of gay people and find myself in similar situations. I think you might be a little paranoid, remember girl friends are "overly friendly" in general, maybe you mistaking that for flirting? Even gay girls need to be girly with their straight friends:wave:

The thing to do is let her know where you stand, it's just like having a plutonic friendship with a guy ;)
 
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I am new, but couldn't help putting my two cents in. I am an ex-gay. After much prayer and deliverance I have finally begun to be attracted to men again and I am very thankful for it. From my past, living as a lesbian before I was saved, I just have to say that I experienced alot of hateful things. People yelling at me, rude remarks, etc. it was very painful. Also, I had friends that because I am an affectionate person they assumed I was hitting on them. Just like not all straight men are attracted to every woman...it hurts when someone who you thought was a friend stops talking to you. I am in NO WAY advocating a gay lifestyle. I am lucky that the Lord took me out of that bondage myself. I am just saying that a person who is going through issues of homosexuality, whether they show it outwardly or not, are probably going through some very painful internal emotions and as Christians I don't feel we should inflict pain on anyone...rather I think it is better to be kind to everyone and seek to witness whenever possible to help them. Who knows you're friend may one day ask for your help spiritually to know God better...if you lose the friendship you wouldn't have that opportunity.
 
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I am new, but couldn't help putting my two cents in. I am an ex-gay. After much prayer and deliverance I have finally begun to be attracted to men again and I am very thankful for it. From my past, living as a lesbian before I was saved, I just have to say that I experienced alot of hateful things. People yelling at me, rude remarks, etc. it was very painful. Also, I had friends that because I am an affectionate person they assumed I was hitting on them. Just like not all straight men are attracted to every woman...it hurts when someone who you thought was a friend stops talking to you. I am in NO WAY advocating a gay lifestyle. I am lucky that the Lord took me out of that bondage myself. I am just saying that a person who is going through issues of homosexuality, whether they show it outwardly or not, are probably going through some very painful internal emotions and as Christians I don't feel we should inflict pain on anyone...rather I think it is better to be kind to everyone and seek to witness whenever possible to help them. Who knows you're friend may one day ask for your help spiritually to know God better...if you lose the friendship you wouldn't have that opportunity.
Thanx very much for the advise. And ya since starting the thread i have come a long way. at first i had this condemning atittude but now i guess God has really worked on me and helped me things differently.
 
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