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I need prayer advice.

Discussion in 'Christian Advice' started by Lik3, Jan 5, 2013.

  1. Lik3

    Lik3 Newbie

    I have been diagnosed with a number of conditions and it is easier to pray for others, but it is hard for myself. I don't know why this is, but I have doubts that God will answer my prayers about myself. For other people it is less frustrating to pray for them. I find myself frustrated about this. I even find myself questioning God about even healing others. What is wrong with me? You see, I have a first cousin who died in July and I have prayed for him, but he grew worse. How do I pray to the Lord about my fears and doubts? It is as if I am concentrating on the words that I am praying because I am repeating the same words over and over again. I need your advice on this. How should I pray for healing for myself and for others? Is there a reason why God doesn't answer my prayers? Is God trying to tell me something?
  2. Tigger45

    Tigger45 No one heals himself by wounding another. Supporter CF Senior Ambassador Angels Team

    United States
    Do You know how much God loves you?

    Zephaniah 3:17 The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing.
  3. Eloy

    Eloy Light

    Prayer is talking with the Lord God. Just as we are talking here, so likewise we talk to him who can answer us. It is normal for us Christians to pray for others needs ahead of our own. And it seems that God answers the self-LESS prayer over the self-ISH prayer. We may be slighted by sinners in this world, but try not to think that God is like that, because he is above "favoritism" and loves each one of us equally. He does not love one child overtop of another child, but instead he loves each one with the same amount of love. I know I personally feel, "passed over" or "overlooked" when I witness others getting blessed. But I'm learning to be happy for each person who gets blessed by God, and know that one day I too will be blessed in like manner. But we must be patient and wait on the Lord, for he truly does know what is best for each one of us. Praise the Lord! Just keep praising the Lord, and thanking him for all his goodness to you and to others. Amen? Amen.
  4. BNDx

    BNDx :D

    God has a plan for all of us. Most of the time we can't see the way He works, but I promise you He is working. God doesn't want you to hurt and He doesn't want bad things to happen to you.

    Don't give up. Keep praying. If you aren't sure what to say while praying, then ask God to help you find the words. Ask for the Holy Spirit to guide you. God always hears you even though He may not always answer our prayers in five seconds.

    I don't know what you've been diagnosed with, but I too have had my own problems. Mostly mental. I have been diagnosed with OCD, anxiety and depression and my faith in God has almost completely cured me. I was always someone who never, ever thought that God was listening, but He was.

    God loves you more than you know. He will not forsake you. Confess your fears and sins to God. Be completely honest. It will all work out for you.

    Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. -Matthew 7:7

  5. paul1149

    paul1149 that your faith might rest in the power of God Supporter

    United States
    Prayer is an amazing study because the Lord has assured us that the Father knows our needs even before we ask. The reasoning mind may then ask, why do we need to pray?

    I'm not God, of course, and He can do what He sees fit to do, of course, but if I were God it seems to me that the kind of prayer I would not enjoy hearing would include those characterized by a focus on repetitive words rather than on "Me" (God), desperate entreaties devoid of faith, or pro-forma recitations with no heart behind them.

    If you think about it, the one thing all those kinds of prayer have in common is this: they do not draw us into intimate relationship with God based on faith. I believe that God is loathe to reward prayers that are not taking us toward our destiny in Him, that are not building us up in Him by increasing our faith.

    God's purpose is to give us the Kingdom. It is "His good pleasure" to do so, Jesus tells us. He could have drawn us all up into heaven the moment we were saved had He wanted to, but instead He has left us here to do the very real job of kingdom-building. And in building the kingdom He at the same time builds us up, conforming us to His glorious image, and preparing us to reign with Him eternally from the very throne room of the universe as the Bride of Christ. Amazing stuff, indeed.

    And so the Lord wants us to discern His will and then take a active role, including in prayer, to make it happen. Our intercession has a very real part in the outworking of God's will on earth. So much so that some say that nothing occurs without the participation of the church.

    If you think on the importance of this, you may get a sense of the reality of the authority we actually wield (see Mt 28.18-; Eph 1). And then you won't have an undue focus on mere words, but rather on the spirit behind them. (The choice of words can be critical to getting the prayer right, though. The ideal is for word and spirit to work together.)

    Maybe if this makes sense and provides some light, the business about prayer for self v. others will fall into place, as you discern the Lord's will and see your kingdom authority more clearly.

    An astonishing look into these things is found in the book Destined to Reign by Paul Billheimer. Highly recommended as a very slow, intensely challenging read.
  6. BFine

    BFine Seed Planter

    Calvary Chapel

    *Everyone who was prayed for and or was healed in the Bible eventually died
    and the same is true for "today".
    This "world" isn't all there is.

    Prayer is talking to God about what is affecting you and or others.
    You can admit to having doubts/fears etc...
    There's no call for a fancy formal prayer or saying it in poetic form etc.
    Tell the Lord what is troubling you -- be sincere.

    I like what Jesus said when he prayed about what he was facing
    (while in the garden at Gethsemane) -- He prayed fervently for that cup to
    pass but in the end he said: Father, not my will be done but thine.
    Jesus put the whole matter (including himself) into his Father's hands.
    We too, should follow His example.

    God can use you (us) in sick or in health, whether rich or in poverty,
    gender, age, ethnicity etc. don't matter-- God uses folks who are willing/& or trusting in Him.

    He still trusts--
    My husband had an accident at work over 3 yrs. ago and had to have
    his left leg amputated, he also has severe allergies, hyper-sensitive skin,
    he is deaf and has developed osteoarthritis is his joints...his right leg is
    now bone on bone and there's knee replacement surgery looming--
    we are in the process of getting a stair-climber installed in our home
    in the early spring.
    My husband experiences pain every day and often has trouble sleeping due to
    phantom pain/sensations.

    Even though he is troubled by all that, his outlook is good and he's not
    bitter. My husband has developed a much deeper faith walk with the Lord
    since his accident and amputation.

    Still serving--
    My husband has been taking terms conducting the mens bible study group at church, he and I also are on the pastoral care team; we also sing
    in the little chorus group that visits two nursing homes here in town.
    We also do a little volunteer work.

    We still believe, pray and serve others as we are able to do so.

    We pray for healing, we pray mostly for boldness/perseverance
    and we pray faithfully for others. Even though we haven't been healed
    we do know others who have been healed and we rejoice for them and thank
    God for it.

    I do know (through others who have told us) that we have inspired them
    and or blessed them by our witness.
    Many of those folks have also been a blessing to us as well!

    I don't have all the answers but I do hope this can be of help to you
    in some way.
  7. mommy2mybabies

    mommy2mybabies Newbie

    I'm sorry you're going through what you're going through. One thing I'm learning is that God loves me no matter what. Even if he doesn't answer me exactly how or when I want him to. His plan is so much greater than our own. It's hard to understand it on this side of heaven, but I truly believe that we will understand so much more when Christ returns. Keep praying and keep the faith especially when it's hard. God Bless
  8. If Not For Grace

    If Not For Grace Legend-but then so's Keith Richards

    We have all been dying since the day we were born. We all pray for healing for our loved ones sometimes not realizing that death brings us one step closer to home.

    That being said disease and suffering is another matter. It is never God's will that we suffer, He does allow it, but all that comes from the enemy. It is our job to fight and God will see us through it.

    Like others here have said, prayer is simply talking to God. Work on building faith, for nothing pleases God more and a little goes a looong way :)
  9. amandatea

    amandatea Legalist extraordinaire :s

    I've learned this week that prayer only works if you can "see" that God is a REAL person (obviously not human, but a personality) and He is there with you. Only then will the power of prayer become real to you. Also when you line up your desires with God's, He will give you the desires of your heart. He promised this and God does not break His promises.

    Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.

    That said, unfortunately, suffering is a part of life and we have to decide whether we're going to use that suffering for good. We can learn from it, we can realize that the only real thing we have in life is God.

    I had a cousin who had constant health problems throughout his life - he became very sick as a child with kidney problems - he had two kidney transplants and lived with many complications due to organ rejection and monitoring that, so on and so forth.
    He died at the age of 26. But you know what, I have met very few people who loved God and showed the love of God and love and devotion to God as much as him. He had a very rough life, but he didn't let it shake his faith a bit (as far as I know - obviously, I don't know his heart - I'm going by what I saw in his life). He was also a very wise person, even as a child. That only comes from a relationship with the Lord.

    I have been reading this devotional book (God's Love Letters to You by Dr. Larry Crabb) and I would like to share a few short excerpts with you :

    "You want Me to solve your problems, but you don't know what your worst problem is, the one responsible for all the others. You don't yet realize that distance from Me is the most lethal problem you have.
    You assume we're doing just fine together while you run off, trying to make life work for you, and you expect Me to cooperate. When you read Leviticus, notice that I never solve anyone's secondary problems. In all those verses about skin infection, for example, I never prescribed ointment or simply cured the disease, which I easily could have done. I simply told people they couldn't enter My Presence with an oozing sore. The issue was worship and intimacy with Me, not health, wealth, or personal comfort." Pg 8

    "The road to life will expose you to terrible failure and crushing conflict. But only that road leads to the life you want, the life I give you. Spiritual leaders who teach that I am here to solve your problems and make your lives comfortable and prosperous underestimate the energy (and badly misunderstand the nature) of unholiness in the human heart that I must severely deal with to get you to My party." Pg 11

    ""I am the only true God. There is none other. When you don't like what I'm doing, there is no plan B. I brought you out to bring you in. You were locked in the prison of self-centeredness, just as Israel was in painful bondage to Egypt, where all they could think about was themselves - how can we get a better life? Not, how can we love God?
    I brought you out of that prison to bring you into the freedom of love. If you love Me only when I immediately satisfy your desires, your love is merely one more form of self-centeredness. Your love becomes trust only when you choose to believe that I brought you out of something bad to bring you into something good before you experience from that something good. Then your love is sustained by confidence in My character, not by enjoyment of current blessings.
    I ask nothing of you but that kind of love, which includes respecting Me for who I am, following Me wherever I lead, serving Me with your whole heart, and obeying every command I give." Pg 14

    Okay, so that was longer than I expected it to be, but the gist of it is that we have to trust the Lord no matter what, love Him, have faith that He will do exactly as he promised. We also have to realize, as I frequently say, when we put Him first in our lives, He will take care of the rest. He promised that also.

    Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

    You see? It is always prefaced with that condition - when you put God FIRST, He will be delighted to take care of you. This is the central message of the bible. He wants to be absolutely first in our lives. Then He will do everything in the world to take care of us.

    (This post is not judgmental in spirit - it is only in hopes that it helps and edifies you that I say all these things <3)
  10. Bethel8

    Bethel8 Newbie

    Talk to God about everything ,not formally , but more like spilling your hearts contents to HIm. It might not be pretty but u will get back to the point when you realize u can trust Him again
  11. EazyMack

    EazyMack Guest

    I'm very sorry for what you're going through. :(

    God loves you. Jesus is the proof.

    This world doesn't love us, it never has, and it never will.

    Death of the body is inevitable, we are all appointed to die once. This world and this life are full of suffering... death is the deliverance. Being a blessing to others while we're here is what we are here for.

    I hope you can see the comfort that is truly offered in this.
  12. tbogunro

    tbogunro Newbie

    You see praying/asking for healing is pointless. Why? Because God said you're already HEALED. Key word is "healed" which is past tense. God calls things that are not, as though as they are. So just THANK Him for healing and if you doubt don't open your mouth and speak on it. Infact keep it in your mind and just CONTINUALLY thank God. Also if your cousin spoke out his unbelief in God healing then healing won't occur. You see God doesn't force miracles on anyone. Doubt sometimes comes from the devil because he wants you to SPEAK out the doubt. The devil is looking for your CONFESSION of doubt that's why I said if doubt comes, zip it and don't say a word. Look we're just like God which is made in His image and as you should know God NEVER does anything without speaking it 1st. He speaks then acts. The devil is the same way. So if you SPEAK unbelief then that will happen. So your job is to STOP asking for healing and THANK Him for it! This is a DIRECT teaching from the Holy Spirit and the same way I operate. I haven't been sick in forever and when someone is sick I don't ask for healing but DECREE it and God hasn't failed yet. Doubt will come but that isn't the problem. The problem is the things you say. So STOP asking and start THANKING. Also the devil will definitely try and make the.sickness worse and send people your way in hopes that you'll slip up and SPEAK unbelief. Watch your words and THANK God for it till the manifestation occurs :)

    Isaiah 53:5 NLT

    But he was pierced for our rebellion,
    crushed for our sins.
    He was beaten so we could be whole.
    He was whipped so we could be HEALED.

    Romans 4:17 KJV

    (As it is written, I have made thee a father of many nations,) before him whom he believed, even God, who quickeneth the dead, and calleth those things which be not as though they were.

    Proverbs 18:21 ESV

    Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
    and those who love it will eat its fruits.
  13. Ark100

    Ark100 The Lord is my Refuge

    The word of God is more important first and foremost. It is His power.
    ITS NOT POINTLESS asking, seeking and knocking. Jesus said "You have not because you haven't asked. Please whatever you do, always humble yourself before God and ASK. Speak to Him. Our Father knows what we need but we should ask. If its healing you need, PRAY AND ASK. This is what the Lord requires. And then you have done those two.
    BELIEVE. And thank Him.

    Always Ask, Seek, Knock

    Matthew 7:7-8

    7“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.

    And when you ask and pray, believe you have it. Dont be afraid to go to God to pout your hearts out to Him. If things dont change instantly does not mean they won't change. Keep the faith and thank Him.

    I pray God will reveal Himself to you in Jesus name
  14. LoricaLady

    LoricaLady YHWH's

    "You have not because you ask not..." And there is nothing you can't ask about. You might want to ask Him to help you pray, to search your heart and see any impediment to your prayers. Just everytime you see a barrier, ask about that barrier & what to do about it.

    Praying you will get all the answers.