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I just yelled and vented at God

Discussion in 'Requests for Christian Advice' started by NASA321, Nov 1, 2017.

  1. NASA321

    NASA321 New Member

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    There's stuff in my life that have caused me a lot of pain and anger for some time now. Finally it just blew up on me where I just finally, on my way to work in my car, just blew up and screamed at God. I told him how [staff edit] mad I was and told him exactly how I felt. I told him that I no longer trusted Him because He has not given me a reason to trust Him in this area of my life. I told him that despite any efforts to trust in him, nothing but more pain and frustration have occurred in my life with it. I know that we are to be honest with God as David was with him in Psalms. But unlike David, he always at the end seem to remind himself of the goodness of God, I just couldn't get myself to do because I was just so damn angry. I couldn't get myself to say "oh thank you for everything else" or "I know that you are loving and compassionate".

    Any thoughts or comments on this would be appreciated.
     
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  2. Dave G.

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    Sounds like He has you on the ropes, don't go to bed angry tonight.
     
  3. NASA321

    NASA321 New Member

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    What do you mean he has me on the ropes?
     
  4. FenderTL5

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    I have no words of wisdom but here's a song that seems to speak to your situation.

    "I shook my fist up toward the sky
    And at most of those who love me
    A frightened angry boy
    In grown-up clothes.."

     
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  5. RaymondG

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    Where was God when you yelled at Him....and how do you know he heard you?
     
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  6. Dave G.

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    I mean keep praying. Maybe it's how you are praying, change it up.. And sometimes no answer is the answer. But since we have no clue what you are talking about this is kind of conjecture.
     
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  7. SeventyOne

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    Life is hard, and some points are very hard. Very, very hard. It's times like those where I've had to remind myself of what Job went through, covered in sores, losing all his children, possessions, then his wife and friends turn on him, but we are told that he didn't sin or charge God with wrong.

    I've lost a child and been stripped of possessions, but I've never had it that bad. He's the model that shows us that God will let us go through a lot of crap, but He never stops caring or watching over us. The same God who permits is also the same God that restores and increases.
     
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  8. Far Side Of the Moon

    Far Side Of the Moon " The moon is high& the stars are aligned" :)

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    I think honesty is the best policy imo, even with God. I don't think its healthy to just pretend to be happy, God knows you aren't happy and he knows when you hate His guys too lol...so no since in hiding it...but I feel there's a way to go about it ...being respectful.... By simply saying God I'm mad at you for , ect. Ect.ect. , please help me. Help me to understand and see my situation th3 way you do.

    God doesn't flinch at our candid feelings...just express them appropriately.
     
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  9. paul1149

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    I think you misstated that. When the Psalms dip into human pathos, they always come out with some kind of affirmational statement about God.

    Except once. Psalm 88 is the bottom of the barrel for a man named Heman. He cries out for help, and is at the end of his rope. And there is not a word of ease in the whole psalm.

    I'm not saying it's a good thing to get angry at God. I don't believe it is. But we are human, and sometimes we get overwhelmed.

    In the Garden, Jesus also was overwhelmed, to the point of sweating blood. Yet Hebrews 5 says He was heard because of His reverence.

    We always need to be honest with God. If that causes us to sometimes go over the line, the best thing to do is go back and apologize. God is the best father there is, and He knows us better than we know ourselves. He understands why we do the things we do, and He wants better for us. He will forgive and give grace. The sooner we come back to a place of realizing that God is our best friend and ally in whatever we're going through, the better. Talk about your frustrations and anger with God, and ask for grace to deal with whatever's causing them in a constructive way.
     
  10. NASA321

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    I'm sorry to hear your losses :( I mentioned Job to Him when I yelled at Him. I told him that He gave Job so much and after Job trusted Him, He gave him even more. I'm sitting here trusting in Him only to receive more suffering and pain and frustration. I feel like after I crawl out of a hole, all I see is the wall of another hole that I need to crawl out of and it's perpetually that way.
     
  11. NASA321

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    You're right. I did misstate that. I meant to say that David always reminds himself of God's goodness regardless of how much pain or agony he is in. I can't seem to do that.
     
  12. Almost there

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    My wife did that on the way from the hospital right after her first husband died of leukemia and left her with three children under six and no life insurance. She even beat the dashboard.

    But He actually spoke to her when she was done and brought a complete peace on her.
     
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  13. ToBeLoved

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    I to have been angry with God and I told Him how I felt. I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing, because God knows how you are feeling anyway and this allows you to tell Him how you feel. Sometimes, if done in the right way it can help you get all that anger out and maybe come to a place of forgiveness and healing. It did that for me.

    One thing though, is I would control the conversation as in always remembering who He is. I can't see all the
    [bless and do not curse] text, but just watch what you say, He is your Father. He loves you. You may be angry, but we have to give our Father the respect due to Him.

    I hope this helped you to get past all of this anger. The next night after my angry outburst, I had a good long cry in prayer and that also helped to heal my heart.

    God bless.
     
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    Do you have a pastor or a good, trusted Christian friend you can talk to? Not someone who is just going to parrot verses at you, but someone who can help you see another perspective?
     
  15. NASA321

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    1. What did He say to her?
    2. All I heard after that was a deafening silence.
     
  16. SeventyOne

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    Jesus told us that in this life we will have troubles. Promise kept, right?

    Peter tells us to cast all our troubles and anxieties on the Lord, because He cares for us. We are never told our life would be trouble free, just what we should do when they arise. Troubles should be an expectation.

    My wife asked me out of the blue a few years back if I got angry at God when we lost that child (we have 3 others). I told her the truth, I did not. What it came down to for me is this, do I trust Him or not. If I trust him, then I know when all of life's crap comes, He's got my back and everything that has come my way He's allowed for His own reasons. It's safe to say, should I be honest with myself, I don't have any clue on the specifics of why He allows most things to happen. But I do understand much about His revealed character, and sooner or later I'll stand before Him and find out many of those reasons why.
     
  17. NASA321

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    You said that you were not angry because you trust Him. Trust Him with what?? You say that He's got your back when everything in life comes at you. How did He have your back when your child died? When people say to trust God when times are tough, I always wonder "trust Him in what ways and for what?" If I trust God when I lose my job, I will trust Him that He will provide for me and I will not starve then I can do that and trust Him that I will be provided for. But I never understand the idea of just trusting Him. there has to be an issue to trust with.
     
  18. Aldebaran

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    One thing you can take from this is that you believe God exists and that he's real and that he hears you. Otherwise, you wouldn't have said these things. You were also honest, rather than saying what you believed you were supposed to say. It reminds me of how marriages usually work better when the husband and wife are open and honest with one another rather than just going along with the other person until they finally can't take it anymore and want a divorce.
    BTW, I've done what you did too. I still do sometimes when I'm pushed to my limit. I often wonder why when things seem like they can't get any worse, they do, and He allows it.
     
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  19. 1am3laine

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    people do get mad at GOD but you have to encourage yourself if the Lord.
    (Psalms 103)
    Sometimes we get down because life seems to NOT be going the way we intended.
    Still we have things to be thankful for.
    Are you breathing?
    Are you clothed?
    if yes then you are blessed.
    You have to make sure your NOT letting the devourer in by NOT paying your tithes/offerings.
    ( Malachi 3:10-11 )
     
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  20. SeventyOne

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    What promise did He break when my child died? Did He promise him 80 years of life? 8 years? 8 days? Did He ever promise me all my children would be happy die in their old age? No, none of that.

    Did He promise me an easy life or Wealth? A life of few hardships or troubles? Did he promise me I would die happy and in my old age. No, none of that either.

    Where exactly do you think He's ever wronged me? He's never broken a promise or not kept His word. It would be pure selfishness on my part to blame Him for something that He never promised to do in the first place.

    Where exactly do you think He's ever wronged you? Did you get a promise of a trouble-free life? Did He tell you, 'No hardships for you. Life will be a cakewalk'? No, he didn't. He broke no promises to you either.
     
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