Corbin Jackson
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I thought I’d chirp in. I know very much what you’re going through. I’m kinda nerdy and I tend to pick topics or interests and exhaustively pursue them. In a way it’s a good way to meet people. You have an interest in common and it feels like you’re long lost bro’s. Ive found this to be tricky with church because generally most people are generalists. Some people excel at that but I’d say your at a disadvantage being a single male. You don’t have immediate family to leverage while building relationships. If you pick a type of service activity at your church this could help immensely. Music, greeting, whatever. Then become super passionate about it. People will notice your work and conversation can easily flow from that. Granted, it could stay shallow but it can be a good start. Maybe another tip, look for the nicest and most approachable people in your church. People that are listeners and patient. Create conversation with them. Thats low hanging fruit. I found one guy that would put up with my camping stories. He was never big into camping. You know what, we're planning a trip to the grand canyon now. I've also taken maybe an unusual approach and that is have no expectations over connecting with people. By this I mean go to church, talk to people, interact, show up to insignificant events. If no one really interacted with you that day its fine you made the effort. Always meet people halfway even if they don't. Put yourself in all and every situation in that church. Church is a place where you should never be penalized for reaching out, interacting, or being awkward. That's the framework and believe that. In actuality people can be jerks and reject you. But that's not what God made. God made church your family and you believe that no matter what. This mindset will burn through the fog. For many people social interaction is tough but so is exercise. Treat it like exercise and climb that mountain.
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