I hug my blankets at night. Is God mad?

[pinkjess]

I like to fold my blankets into a roll and pretend it's a person and I imagine I'm being held. I daydream that I am snuggling with someone and I wonder if it is a sin. Like some kind of emotional lust you know? I wish I could be one of those strong single Christians who find all of their comfort in God alone and never resort to pathetic devices such as this. But I can't. I'm turning 25 this year and never had a boyfriend and probably never will due to health issues and mental problems I have. Still I ache for physical comfort and to curb it I imagine I'm snuggling somebody. I do it every single night. Is this wrong? Is God mad or disappointed in me because of this?

I think of my future and imagine life events and imagine that I'll have no one to hold me when I'm scared or when I need help. I know I have Jesus, and I know He is my comforter but I am talking about physical comfort that occurs between humans. I don't want to be "alone" in this life. And I'm afraid that is what will happen. I just want to share life with someone of my own instead of being a 3rd wheel.

this is embarrassing.

 

[JesusLovesOurLady]

I'm not sure, if it was sexual it would definitely be sinful, but if it's just emotional I'm not sure. I do have slightly similar issues to what you're going through where I crave human comfort and affection, (and in my case, it is sexual and sinful) in fact just this morning, I went through an intense part of my spiritual healing process which was extremely painful psychological. I'm not sure if I can say anything to help you, (I'm not sure if you have seen anyone about these issues) I will keep you in my prayers though.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[redblue22]

I'm sure you will be fine. I see no sin. We can talk.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[redblue22]

Another thing too is that I chronically lack a social life outside of the internet due to my disability. Being the maladaptive daydreamer I am, I often imagine having a social life and think up of conversations and situations where it's at my own pace as a substitute. Is it strange? Maybe to some people but it does often keep me occupied from my own real life social troubles.

Like I said, we all have our coping methods but some coping methods really are healthier than others.

No fair. You had your turn. Now let the hottie respond.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[redblue22]

If you had my pet rat or dwarf hamsters, you wouldn't dare to give me that look.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[redblue22]

You have nothing to be afraid of. I've done that too; use blanket as person substitute. For me it is like hiding from someone. If God put a check next to every hug or hide from a pillow, I would sure be in trouble. It is quite normal to feel sad or scared in wanting someone to take that place in our lives. I feel for you.

 

[Applekrate]

I like to fold my blankets into a roll and pretend it's a person and I imagine I'm being held. I daydream that I am snuggling with someone and I wonder if it is a sin. Like some kind of emotional lust you know? I wish I could be one of those strong single Christians who find all of their comfort in God alone and never resort to pathetic devices such as this. But I can't. I'm turning 25 this year and never had a boyfriend and probably never will due to health issues and mental problems I have. Still I ache for physical comfort and to curb it I imagine I'm snuggling somebody. I do it every single night. Is this wrong? Is God mad or disappointed in me because of this?

I think of my future and imagine life events and imagine that I'll have no one to hold me when I'm scared or when I need help. I know I have Jesus, and I know He is my comforter but I am talking about physical comfort that occurs between humans. I don't want to be "alone" in this life. And I'm afraid that is what will happen. I just want to share life with someone of my own instead of being a 3rd wheel.

this is embarrassing.

Do not be embarrassed, we all have our own way of dealing with being alone. I am not a Biblical scholar by any means but, I see you doing nothing wrong from a scriptural standpoint. Your desires are probably pretty normal.
Everyone has something 'wrong' with themself. Look at your good qualities and make an effort to make your self avail at church or where ever you go. Best to you

 

[redblue22]

As a representative of God I say this:

God is not mad at you.

 

[pinkjess]

I hope not.

 

[PeachieKeen]

Totally normal and I don't see any reason it would be viewed as sinful. But I agree with Way, body pillows are better

Please don't be too burdened. I think there are definitely very lonely times in waiting for the one, but there's also so many benefits to finding your person later in life. You both will know who you are and be better able to love one another and God together. 25 is not old, even if it feels that way right now.

 

[MehGuy]

Didn't know people did that. Can't say I ever really feel lonely despite being single.

As for it being a sin.. I don't see so.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[Paulie079]

Don't worry, I'm sure Eve rolled up a big bunch of fig leaves to cuddle with when Adam was away on business trips. It's in one of the banned books I bet.

 

[NurseAbigail]

i hug myself when i have a bad day and give myself a pat in the back, have a big teddy bear next to me at night, totally normal...it's normal to desire companionship, and it is also normal to feel lonely sometimes. But never isolate yourself, always reach out to others, open yourself up to be vulnerable, to love is to be vulnerable, it may or may not be reciprocated, but whenever you care for someone something changes inside and somehow the loneliness won't sting so much.

 

[CodyFaith]

It's normal, many people do it. Don't sweat it.

 

[Toro]

While hugging a blanket is just a small thing, it depends on what the Spirit in you is convicting you of.

Is God mad at you, I nor any person can say. It depends on if you obey the Spirit or not.

If you feel a conviction to NOT do something and you do it, or if you feel a conviction to do something and you do not do it.... then that is disobedience and God would not be pleased. It does not mean you are outside His forgiveness or grace.... but obedience and faith is what makes God pleased.

Obedience is about obeying the conviction the Spirit has given to you, its not about what man says or "how many people do it" it is what the Spirit tells YOU is okay or not okay.

The world idolizes money, many people do it, it doesn't make it right.