Hopefully the OP is still with us and walking with God.
I wanted to bear witness to what God can do regarding joining people together. 2 years ago I was single and God was re-establishing Himself in my life. I primarily went around listening to teachings, reading the Word, and praying. I joined a pretty good church and let God begin to heal and restore me. It was a gradual thing. There was some repair work I needed (especially in the realm of breaking soul ties). I can't understate that as the fruits were immediate(!).
God wants to prepare us not only for the work He has called us to, but for the people who are to enter into our lives. There's a lot of baggage you can't see that we carry with us, and it has no place in a relationship. I rid of a lot of "stuff" too. Stuff I had had for 20 years or more. I rid of the world's stuff (mostly media). I faithfully went to church, and even though many of the quiet times I had with the Lord were not outstanding, He honored my desire to be faithful. Since I was mostly alone, I wasn't ruining my blessings by declaring a lot of corrupt stuff. No complaining verbally, but a lot of searching that resembled it at times! Slowly, he deposited things in my spirit. Soaking in the anointing at church helps a lot! I wasn't overflowing with joy, but I had peace. I had patience.
One day, at a church car wash, I spoke to a woman and invited her to a prophetic meeting I loved. Her and I and several others from church would gather after church and hit the local restaurant and talk for an hour or two. We'd go witnessing for another hour or so. One day she mentioned that her family was in Oklahoma and as usual during the holidays, she was lonely and wanted some of the family of God to hang out with. (Worldly friends take away and do not add to!) I mentioned that I would take walks and we started walking a couple of nights a week. Next thing you know, it was 3 times a week, and we would share our views on the church and certain doctrines as well as our own vision for our lives as we believed God had shown it. She became my best friend! I never saw it coming (we just walked). God was preparing her for us and had told her months ago this would be the case. I started to see it myself. If she cancelled our walk for an evening, I would really miss her. For a 3 week period, I worked in her backyard almost every day or night. To shorten the story, God told us to get married and in 2 weeks we did it! (Dec. 22)
The encouragement for others here is that God wants to rebuild your life and not have the woman or man (as the case may be) be the vehicle for your happiness. They add to your life (marvelously!). During the year and a few months, I worshipped and hung out in the anointing (it sometimes seemed like I was going nowhere). I listened to teachings and did Bible studies.
Don't despise where you are at and esteem your time here very important. It's being used even if you feel oppressed at times. Do your part by staying in the Word, listening to testimonies and teachings, going to church and serving as you are able. Believe that when you find a wife, you find a good thing and favor from the Lord. Believe that it is not good for you to be alone and if you feel that way, agree with it! Believe God to bring into your life what you need when you need it. It came for me out of the blue and God is like the Jewish matchmaker. He can bring to you who you need. Be watchful in all things, but not anxious. Don't complain!
Since the wedding, God has turned up the "faders" and is increasing every day. There has been a good share of warfare, but He's working in that too. In short, it is as the scripture says (good)!. Don't accept the lie from the enemy that you're too always be alone. If He calls you to a permanent separation, the fruits of Him occupying that place would far exceed your expectations of a mate.
He wants to heal your wounds, and if you grew up in the world without really knowing Him, you've got some wounds! Be faithful to stay in the anointing and believe Him enough to stop complaining. I was not completely healed when He moved for us to get married. We are climbing that mountain right now and we're finally going to get it!!!
Believe that God gives you desires and then delights in fulfilling them as dreams that when fulfilled are a tree of life.
Be blessed and have hope.
