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Here is the scenario:
I am a black American and basically I have been accused of being a sellout to my own people. I am not, honest. I do tend to care what others think and I need to overcome that. But the fact that there are some who think that I would sell out black people are very hurtful. Also, the fact that there are people who see me as a self-hating black person hurts my feelings even more. I don't think that I try to or do appeal to others to make them happy. I just have my own opinions of things. I am a member of the human race, first, and I know that I am black. I am proud of who I am as a black person and it hurts to know that whatever views that I have are considered self-hatred, subtle or not. I don't harbor any self hatred and I don't believe my posts here or my views reflect that. I feel as though because of my individual and political opinions I have to explain myself that I am not a "self-hating negro".
I think we as black people are individuals and I feel like that because I am black, I should be put into a box of stereotypes. The problem is, I don't fit into what many people think a black person should look a certain way or should think or act a certain way, or have the same perspective that many of us as American black people should have. I am a Conservative Republican who listens to rock, punk, and sometimes old school country music. These are "white" forms of music that also has its roots in black American expression and forms of music.
I have gotten my feelings hurt about being an "aunt Thomasina" (female version of a sellout or rather, an "Uncle Tom") whose views would never appeal to a black person. I resent the fact that my people should be put into a box and that we are not diverse enough. Furthermore, I am concerned about us as black Americans and care about us. We too are human beings and I personally come from a diversity of human beings, namely from West and Central Africa. I consider myself a "student" of history, politics, and religion. I guess I am different and have differing views, but that doesn't mean that I am self-hating. I am just an individual who cares about us as black people, and as humanity in general, however they identify ourselves. That is all.
How should I deal with what others think of me? How do I overcome this? How should I overcome feeling like I have to explain myself when it comes to this issue? I am in my 40s (obviously) and I have struggled with this, and other issues, and I would like to know how to deal with over 40 years of struggling with this issue? I can't take that I have this issue. I also wonder what does the Bible say about my struggle. I just want to read up on the opinions and views of other 40-somethings. They will be greatly appreciated. Just keep it civil.
I am a black American and basically I have been accused of being a sellout to my own people. I am not, honest. I do tend to care what others think and I need to overcome that. But the fact that there are some who think that I would sell out black people are very hurtful. Also, the fact that there are people who see me as a self-hating black person hurts my feelings even more. I don't think that I try to or do appeal to others to make them happy. I just have my own opinions of things. I am a member of the human race, first, and I know that I am black. I am proud of who I am as a black person and it hurts to know that whatever views that I have are considered self-hatred, subtle or not. I don't harbor any self hatred and I don't believe my posts here or my views reflect that. I feel as though because of my individual and political opinions I have to explain myself that I am not a "self-hating negro".
I think we as black people are individuals and I feel like that because I am black, I should be put into a box of stereotypes. The problem is, I don't fit into what many people think a black person should look a certain way or should think or act a certain way, or have the same perspective that many of us as American black people should have. I am a Conservative Republican who listens to rock, punk, and sometimes old school country music. These are "white" forms of music that also has its roots in black American expression and forms of music.
I have gotten my feelings hurt about being an "aunt Thomasina" (female version of a sellout or rather, an "Uncle Tom") whose views would never appeal to a black person. I resent the fact that my people should be put into a box and that we are not diverse enough. Furthermore, I am concerned about us as black Americans and care about us. We too are human beings and I personally come from a diversity of human beings, namely from West and Central Africa. I consider myself a "student" of history, politics, and religion. I guess I am different and have differing views, but that doesn't mean that I am self-hating. I am just an individual who cares about us as black people, and as humanity in general, however they identify ourselves. That is all.
How should I deal with what others think of me? How do I overcome this? How should I overcome feeling like I have to explain myself when it comes to this issue? I am in my 40s (obviously) and I have struggled with this, and other issues, and I would like to know how to deal with over 40 years of struggling with this issue? I can't take that I have this issue. I also wonder what does the Bible say about my struggle. I just want to read up on the opinions and views of other 40-somethings. They will be greatly appreciated. Just keep it civil.