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I finally got it!

Discussion in 'The Ancient Way - Eastern Orthodox' started by AureateDawn, Aug 6, 2013.

  1. AureateDawn

    AureateDawn Love & Peace

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    So I posted on Facebook how I loathe being gay. I had a couple of friends on there say that I need to love myself and get counseling. I said that I love myself and my life, and that I am relatively happy - I just hate being a homo (not due to church or society or anything. Just my own preference). One friend persisted: "That's like saying I love being black, I just hate black culture and black people and being a ***. Darling, let's call a spade a spade shall we ... you just stated self hate."

    I then responded with this: "I still disagree about self hate. I'm gay, sure, but I don't think that means that a core part of who I am as a person is gay. I don't think that any part of who I am is defined by my sexuality. My sexuality and my "me-ness" are two separate things."

    And after I typed that out, it hit me. I finally got it! What all of you here have said for so long, I've heard, but never really truly understood. And just now, it finally hit me! Now I understand. Guess I just had to get there on my own. :)

    Just thought I'd share my little "Aha!" moment.
     
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  2. truthseeker32

    truthseeker32 Lost in the Cosmos

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    Congratulations on the realization. Funny enough I had a similar realization when I was your age as I began considering conversion to Catholicism.
     
  3. Antony in Tx

    Antony in Tx a sinner

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    That's wonderful that you can see this. I know that when I've had moments like this, it feels like a great weight is lifted and I start seeing so many new possibilities in life. May God continue to bless you and keep you in His grace!
     
  4. 27B6

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  5. Gxg (G²)

    Gxg (G²) Pilgrim/Monastic on the Road to God (Psalm 84:1-7) CF Ambassadors Supporter

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    Great expression of what so many others may be feeling - and I agree 100% with the sentiments on the OP poster's thoughts.

    Praying..
     
  6. isshinwhat

    isshinwhat Pro Deo et Patria

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    :)
     
  7. MKJ

    MKJ Contributor

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    I may be picking up too much on your wording here, which may have been quite casual, but most people who have this problem I have spoken to would not, I think, quite say that it should be ignored. More that it should be used or perceived in a different kind of way.

    I think most of the particular temptations we face are one side of something that is more whole and positive. If we ignore the capacities altogether, then we can also lose the strengths they can give us.
     
  8. ArmyMatt

    ArmyMatt Regular Member Supporter

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    yep Justin, you nailed it!
     
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  9. 27B6

    27B6 Veteran

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  10. Dorothea

    Dorothea One of God's handmaidens

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    :)
     
  11. choirfiend

    choirfiend Senior Veteran Supporter

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    We are all very much more than the sum of our parts. Most of which are dysfunctional anyway.
     
  12. Orthohawk

    Orthohawk Newbie

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    One way to keep the "gay=self" crowd at bay is to stop referring to your self as "gay" at all. Say you are "same-sex attracted". The term "gay" is nowadays too wrapped up in the social milieu of the "gay community" to the extent that to be "gay" is more than just your attractions.
     
  13. eastcoast_bsc

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    What I remember of the Gay 'lifestyle" is that it centered around Sex. Sex was the core of everyone's existence. what was once the club social scene is now replaced by hooking up online. sex is anonymous and frequent.

    Even married or "committed" gay men often 'play on the side. it is often a negotiated part of the gay relationship. Even when it is not negotiated, they often "play' on the side.

    I know gay men who would cry and tell me that they were so sick of hooking up, but then they would go right back at it.

    We are all trying to anesthetize our loneliness . No one seems to connect on a human level anymore. Some use booze, drugs and sex.

    The reason people continually have sex, is that their needs are never met. it becomes a cycle that leads to even further alienation which compounds itself.

    what are your thoughts? what have been your experiences in the 'gay"world?
     
  14. HalupkiMonster

    HalupkiMonster Guest

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    I'm so happy to see this, Justin!

    Our Lord has revealed an amazing truth to you. It takes a long journey for Orthodox like you and I to realize this. In our society, which is ever more telling us who we are, it takes a lot of courage to step away from that and realize who we truly are.

    If you ever want to talk about this or anything, feel free to message me.

    I know more gay/same sex-attracted/etc. Orthodox Christians than I care to admit, and it's always amazing when this happens. You've just set off on an amazing journey with Christ. (Now get your butt back to Church, m'kay?)
     
  15. HalupkiMonster

    HalupkiMonster Guest

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    ^THIS
     
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