First off I can help you with our purpose:
Mans purpose has always been to Love God (and really the children he has created) with all our heart soul, mind, and energy.
In order to do that, we first must obtain this Godly type Love that allows you to be totally committed.
This Godly type Love is defined by Jesus words and deeds (you can also use 1 Cor 13 and 1 John 4).
Since God is Love and part of the definition of Godly type Love is unselfishness God is totally unselfish? If God is totally unselfish, He will do and allow all He can to help those that are just willing to accept His help fulfill their objective (Love). That all includes: Christ to go to the cross, satan to roam the earth, tragedies of all kind, hell, evil, and even sin.
God is not trying to trying to get us to do something, but is trying to give us the most powerful force in all universes if we will just accept the gift as it was given (charity). Having Godly Love is having the most powerful force in all universes.
Will we know people do not like to accept charity especially from a giver that paid a huge price? People will try to earn the gift, pay back the gift, be more deserving of the gift than the next person or just say they got the gift without having to accept it. The easiest way to accept the gift is through accepting Gods forgiveness (this is after you have sinned) since forgiveness is charity, grace, mercy Love. AND Jesus has taught us
he that is forgiven much will Love much
The problem is God wants us to be like He is (Gods Love is compelling Him to create beings that can Love like He Loves and made these beings for the sake of those that will accept His Love).
If we continue to refuse Gods Love and really do not want to Love unselfishly, where is there for us to go? Heaven is one huge Love feast so we would not be happy there and God wants us to be happy.
inappropriate contentography is a selfish type Love (you are not benefiting anyone else, so it is not a Godly type Love, but it can be an addiction like other addictions and treated very similarly, with lots of help from others (small groups). From my experience I have concluded everyone is addicted to something, so you are not alone. The way to keep from inappropriate contentography is not so much in trying to stay away, but in filling your life with other worthy stuff to do and just not having time for inappropriate contentography (this seems to have helped others in the past). There are just tons of good stuff you can be doing, make a list keep it in front of you.
The way to grow Godly type Love is by taking the little Godly type Love you do have with the little faith you have and do something with it, that you can do purely out of Love (do not hope on a plan to preach in Africa, but mop the kitchen floor without being asked).