- Sep 28, 2021
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I really miss my mothers, especially my spiritual one. But I also lost my grandma and bio mother within the last 10 years. I have tried to see a pastor about it but I just can't talk about these things with him or in a group setting (I was invited to one a month ago).
I really just want to get past it. There are things I cannot say on a public forum though. I feel alone, tired and depressed. I have exhausted family and friends with it (at least that's what I feel, they haven't said anything).
I desperately need another mother figure to come into my life. One that loves and cares for me but not domineering. I seem to just have friends (equals) or elders.
No one knows my soul the way that my spiritual mother seemed to in the beginning. Nor has anyone but she been able to draw such incredible creativity out of me and make me feel like I was a part of something bigger than myself. She gave me drive and purpose. She brought light and love into my life, it was like Christmas everyday with her.
I have a hard time getting close to people. I don't trust easily. Yet I totally fell head over heels in love with her. I came to realize too late that she didn't feel the same way.
I want the love that Mary and Jesus give, not the love of a mere friend but the love that provides security and focuses on my development and is a champion and advocate for me. Love that stirs my soul and opens the world to me. Love that will never leave me. Love that knows my sins and baggage but still wants me around. But Mary and Jesus don't have skin on and I can't hear their voices.
Sometimes, I think it would have been better for this woman to have never come into my life than for her to come and then drop me.
I am grieving. If I had my bio mother or grandma, my spiritual mother leaving wouldn't have been as bad. But my bio mom died a year prior and I am now emotionally destitute.
Help me if you can. Tell me what to do, where to go to find a new mom.
Thanks
I really just want to get past it. There are things I cannot say on a public forum though. I feel alone, tired and depressed. I have exhausted family and friends with it (at least that's what I feel, they haven't said anything).
I desperately need another mother figure to come into my life. One that loves and cares for me but not domineering. I seem to just have friends (equals) or elders.
No one knows my soul the way that my spiritual mother seemed to in the beginning. Nor has anyone but she been able to draw such incredible creativity out of me and make me feel like I was a part of something bigger than myself. She gave me drive and purpose. She brought light and love into my life, it was like Christmas everyday with her.
I have a hard time getting close to people. I don't trust easily. Yet I totally fell head over heels in love with her. I came to realize too late that she didn't feel the same way.
I want the love that Mary and Jesus give, not the love of a mere friend but the love that provides security and focuses on my development and is a champion and advocate for me. Love that stirs my soul and opens the world to me. Love that will never leave me. Love that knows my sins and baggage but still wants me around. But Mary and Jesus don't have skin on and I can't hear their voices.
Sometimes, I think it would have been better for this woman to have never come into my life than for her to come and then drop me.
I am grieving. If I had my bio mother or grandma, my spiritual mother leaving wouldn't have been as bad. But my bio mom died a year prior and I am now emotionally destitute.
Help me if you can. Tell me what to do, where to go to find a new mom.
Thanks