Hello, I would like to ask for some advice. I'll try to make this short although it is a very complex issue.
My husband and I have been married for 15 years and have two lovely children. From the outside, things are great. But I am afraid I have wrecked my marriage.
I was diagnosed as bipolar after having major emotional issues since age 12. The doc put me on a bad medication 3 years ago which caused me to gain 70 pounds, develop a drinking problem, and a habit of talking to men online. Yes, it is as bad as it sounds. What's worse is, this whole time I blamed my husband for not being affectionate and supportive of my issues, threatening to have affairs and leave him.
The good news is, I quit the med, stopped all my bad habits and lost all the weight! I got off the couch, started making dinner again and oddly enough, my emotional problems have disappeared since quitting the horrible medication. I am sane again and NOTHING like the woman I was on while taking that med.
My problem is I am afraid I have caused irreparable damage to my marriage. I have recently been worried sick and anxious that my husband will leave me, even though he tries to tell me everything is fine. He actually tells me we are "soul mates," but I feel as though God will take him away from me because I don't deserve him. I feel literally sick to my stomach with guilt. I know he just wants to move on and forget it.
Anyway, I just need some opinions on how I can be a better wife and fix my marriage.
*I did find a good marriage counselor, who understands bipolar, but I am afraid that taking my husband to an appointment will only dredge up issues and make things worse....?*