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Hi, I wrote about my dad's fall the other day. He's been in the hospital for a few days and he's acting worse. :(

He's been kind of delusional, and can't stand up because he's been in his bed for so long. He's supposed to go to a rehab facility next week but I think that he's either not going to last that long, or if he does, he won't last the duration of the rehab. That's not what the nurse says, that's what I say myself. I have been having amped up anxiety and something about this whole thing has an ominous outlook IMHO. If only he had not locked the freaking door when he was showering, he would not have been in this situation right now.
 

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Hi, I wrote about my dad's fall the other day. He's been in the hospital for a few days and he's acting worse. :(

He's been kind of delusional, and can't stand up because he's been in his bed for so long. He's supposed to go to a rehab facility next week but I think that he's either not going to last that long, or if he does, he won't last the duration of the rehab. That's not what the nurse says, that's what I say myself. I have been having amped up anxiety and something about this whole thing has an ominous outlook IMHO. If only he had not locked the freaking door when he was showering, he would not have been in this situation right now.
I will keep praying for him and for you.

When my father fell and broke his hip he was delusional and was reliving the horrors of his experience in WWII. He got a hip replacement but also a hospital infection that eventually killed him. It was so sad. I didn’t have quite the history you have with your father. But I see how much trauma this must be for you right now. So I will keep praying for you.
 
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He got a hip replacement but also a hospital infection that eventually killed him.
I don't think my dad can survive in the hospital, he needs to be home instead :sigh:

That may sound weird but what's weirder is how dreadful it is by myself. :|
 
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I don't think my dad can survive in the hospital, he needs to be home instead :sigh:

That may sound weird but what's weirder is how dreadful it is by myself. :|
Please keep us updated Lady Bug. :praying:
 
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This is the second night I can't sleep very well. I'm terrified for him. :(:(
This is where I 'go' sometimes ...
when I can't sleep, am feeling all alone, or just plain fearful.
(It's my 24/7 live chapel!)

To enter, click on link:

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Hi, I wrote about my dad's fall the other day. He's been in the hospital for a few days and he's acting worse. :(

He's been kind of delusional, and can't stand up because he's been in his bed for so long. He's supposed to go to a rehab facility next week but I think that he's either not going to last that long, or if he does, he won't last the duration of the rehab. That's not what the nurse says, that's what I say myself. I have been having amped up anxiety and something about this whole thing has an ominous outlook IMHO. If only he had not locked the freaking door when he was showering, he would not have been in this situation right now.
I just prayed for you and your dad, Lady Bug.
 
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I don't think my dad can survive in the hospital, he needs to be home instead :sigh:

That may sound weird but what's weirder is how dreadful it is by myself. :|
Normally hospitals push people home fairly quickly. So if they haven't sent him home yet it may be a measure that he isn't yet ready. I get it about how hospitals are tough, but when my wife was recently in the hospital for days it would have been crazy to provide the care she needed at home. Hang in there. Discuss it with the doctors. I hope you have some medical rights to do so like a durable power of attorney.
 
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Yes, @Lady Bug ... A 'Medical Power of Attorney' is going to be very important now, from here on out.

Your Dad will need for you to be able to make medical decisions for him, whenever he is not able to do so.
But as you probably know, he needs to legally grant you that power.

Sorry for the hard times you are going thru, but God will get you thru it! :twohearts:
 
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Ask God for His peace, comfort and wisdom for both of you. I can’t remember… but how old is your dad now? What is he medical team saying?
The medical team says he could be released today or tomorrow. I thought he was going right to the rehab place after but my dad said he's coming home. I don't know who's correct. He goes in and out of delusion. Earlier this morning the nurses said he was in a better mood, but when I called him just now, he thought he was already home. I'm going there once I'm done eating something. Sigh.
Is it possible to give him the anointing of the sick?
No, he's an obstinate unbeliever :(
Normally hospitals push people home fairly quickly. So if they haven't sent him home yet it may be a measure that he isn't yet ready. I get it about how hospitals are tough, but when my wife was recently in the hospital for days it would have been crazy to provide the care she needed at home. Hang in there. Discuss it with the doctors. I hope you have some medical rights to do so like a durable power of attorney.
My dad wants to come home instead of going to the rehab but I'm pretty sure that (temporarily at least) I cannot help him at home the way that a rehab facility could. Sigh.
Yes, @Lady Bug ... A 'Medical Power of Attorney' is going to be very important now, from here on out.

Your Dad will need for you to be able to make medical decisions for him, whenever he is not able to do so.
But as you probably know, he needs to legally grant you that power.

Sorry for the hard times you are going thru, but God will get you thru it! :twohearts:
I don't have POW. This is the worst time NOT to have one. :(
 
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I don't have POW. This is the worst time NOT to have one. :(
Yes, it probably is, dear sister.
So .... maybe do the best you can, and get it when you can?

I hope your Dad will understand, and not be stubborn about it ... like some older folks can be.
I will pray, that he understands the need for this action now, or at his next moment of mental clarity.


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Yes, it probably is, dear sister.
So .... maybe do the best you can, and get it when you can?

I hope your Dad will understand, and not be stubborn about it ... like some older folks can be.
I will pray, that he understands the need for this action now, or at his next moment of mental clarity.


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I don't think my dad will be against it but I'm worried right now whether or not I can take care of my dad when he gets home. :|
 
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I don't think my dad will be against it but I'm worried right now whether or not I can take care of my dad when he gets home. :|
Because of his age and all (Medicare? Health Insurance?), I'm thinking your Dad might be entitled to some 'in home' nursing care, even just a few visits a week(?). You'll want to be sure to look into those things ... the rehab center can probably tell you more ... and be sure to explain that you'll be the only one there at the house caring for him. And that you don't have any other support. They do often take those things into consideration, when sending a patient home and approving additional care.

Most patients your Dad's age will have an assigned social worker at the hospital/rehab center. It's been my experience that it really helps to be honest with the social worker. They're the ones to know about about the resources available to help the patient, and caregiver, at home.

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The medical team says he could be released today or tomorrow. I thought he was going right to the rehab place after but my dad said he's coming home. I don't know who's correct. He goes in and out of delusion. Earlier this morning the nurses said he was in a better mood, but when I called him just now, he thought he was already home. I'm going there once I'm done eating something. Sigh.

My dad wants to come home instead of going to the rehab but I'm pretty sure that (temporarily at least) I cannot help him at home the way that a rehab facility could. Sigh.
They SHOULD ask YOU whether you are ready, willing, and able to care for him if he goes home. If you say "No, I don't think I'm going to be up for all of that." they will probably send him to rehab. OR figure out how to have home health care for him where someone comes in to care for him. But I doubt they can send him home if you are not prepared. They, and your father too, cannot just presume you will be nurse without a degree 24/7.
 
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