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I dont feel like a strong mom

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I wish alot that i was like my mom. She never struggled with anxiety or anything mental and was able to be strong for us whwn we needed it.
Idk i just feel bad for my kids bc i deal with anxiety ..and their grandma is like a co-mom to them.

I just dont feel strong enough to be able to hold my fears and theirs. I feel im struggli g at times.
I wish i w as stronger.
 

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I wish alot that i was like my mom. She never struggled with anxiety or anything mental and was able to be strong for us whwn we needed it.
Idk i just feel bad for my kids bc i deal with anxiety ..and their grandma is like a co-mom to them.

I just dont feel strong enough to be able to hold my fears and theirs. I feel im struggli g at times.
I wish i w as stronger.
I will pray for you but you should ask the Holy Spirit to strengthen you. You can do this with the help of God, do not let satan put doubt in your mind, you are an over comer.
 
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I will pray for you but you should ask the Holy Spirit to strengthen you. You can do this with the help of God, do not let satan put doubt in your mind, you are an over comer.
I will pray for that.
 
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I just dont feel strong enough to be able to hold my fears and theirs. I feel im struggli g at times.
I wish i w as stronger.

Feelings have nothing to do with it.

You have children, they need to be washed, clothed, fed, taken to school and who knows what other things need doing.

It is a case of doing the job in front of you.

Yes you may be full of doubt and anxiety, do your screaming inside and deal with your children.

Get organised, write out a menu for the week or for the month, from that write out a shopping list, go shopping and put a copy of the menu on a cupboard door, inside the cupboard have a folder with the recipes.
Write out a to do list of everything that needs to be done in the home, for the kids, break it down into daily tasks and pin it up on a cupboard and get on with it.
 
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Feelings have nothing to do with it.

You have children, they need to be washed, clothed, fed, taken to school and who knows what other things need doing.

It is a case of doing the job in front of you.

Yes you may be full of doubt and anxiety, do your screaming inside and deal with your children.

Get organised, write out a menu for the week or for the month, from that write out a shopping list, go shopping and put a copy of the menu on a cupboard door, inside the cupboard have a folder with the recipes.
Write out a to do list of everything that needs to be done in the home, for the kids, break it down into daily tasks and pin it up on a cupboard and get on with it.

I do all of the above. Idk i guess I want to be strong enough to hold their fears as well as my own.
 
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I do all of the above. Idk i guess I want to be strong enough to hold their fears as well as my own.
Trust, trust God, you do not have to depend on just your strength you can depend on God.
 
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I do all of the above. Idk i guess I want to be strong enough to hold their fears as well as my own.
Your mother had fears, it was a different time and you are a person with your own life Circumstance's. Too much in your head. Your kids call you Mommy, see yourself as they see you. Too self-conscious, your focusing on what you think about yourself that is depressing you.
 
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It's been some time since you posted this. How are you doing now?
I appreciate what Tolworth John said above about getting organized and making a plan and burying your anxiety and dealing with the moment at hand .. but I personally don't believe it's that simple. Not everyone works that way.

Personally, I'm a software engineer. I know all about organization and steps and procedures and schedules. I used to try to apply rules and regulations to my family and my life.

I'm now learning that life is not a straight line. Life is not a math equation. Life can't just be outlined in a diagram on a whiteboard.

Life is messy. Life is organic. Trees grow crooked. And that's ok. Not only is it ok, it's actually PERFECT. God's perfection is not the same as our definition of perfection. We think we have to be a certain breed of parent in order to be good at parenting. Parenting is organic. It comes in millions of different flavors.

"I don't feel like a strong mom". You only need to be a strong daughter of Christ. He will carry you. His Holy Spirit will work on your heart to calm you and give you resolve. Don't try to be "perfect" or "strong" in the world's eyes.

He made you exactly who He needs you to be.
 
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Don't judge yourself too harshly by comparing yourself to past generations. This world is changing constantly. As long as you are taking care of your kids you're doing a great job. There is nothing wrong with your mom helping out either, that is a good thing. It doesn't make you less to have assistance.
 
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There is no such thing as a weak Mom. You are all incredible creations of the Lord. I pray for more strength for you personally, but this world is not hospitable to our beliefs which make your job harder than ever.
 
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