FWIW, this is a good thing, and speaks well of him. And you.
Also FWIW - probably not much but -
- I am a guy.
- I don't know you from Adam, and even less about him.
- I haven't been on a first date in forty years.
On the other hand -
And I don't believe male nature has changed much over the last few decades.
I think he meant that he wants to be your friend, and possibly/probably date you. And there is nothing wrong with that. It happens.
I base my opinion of you only on reading your posts, but lots of people come across like idiots, jerks, or bozos in general online. (See my post history if you don't believe it.
) But you don't. You sound like a nice, intelligent, reasonable and rather mature young lady. That is highly attractive, especially to the right sort of guy. The kind of guy you are going to want to date, when you are ready. Notice I said when
you are ready. Not "when your uncle is ready", or "when your mom is ready".
Which goes back to what I said earlier - you need to get out, get a job, get a place to live, and then start making friends, some of which will be male and some of which will want to date you. Probably a lot will want to date you.
Obviously it is highly unlikely that this guy, your first male friend, is The One. If for no other reason than you aren't experienced enough in dating or being friends with men to be The One for him, and that is at least as important. But dating is practice in getting to know people, and having fun along the way. And along the way you will notice that most of the men you date will fall into one of three categories
- Jerks or losers. He doesn't have a job or any prospects in life, and he isn't trying. Or he is rude to people, puts you down, whines about how nothing is his fault, etc.
- Nice enough, but not interesting. This doesn't mean there is anything wrong with him - he just doesn't trip your triggers. He's not your physical type, or you don't share any interests, or whatever. And
- Possibles. People who might, eventually, wind up being someone you want to share your life and your dreams and your bed with.
Guys of the first type, you don't go out with. Or you go out with him once, and he's rude to the waitress or doesn't pay any attention to you, so you cut the date short and ignore him from then on.
Guys of the second type, maybe you date once or twice, because maybe he's got interesting friends, but if there is no electricity, you tell him "thanks but no thanks" and move on to the next guy. There's always a next guy. Every pot's got a lid.
The third category, you date for a while and get to know him and he gets to know you. He laughs at your jokes, you have fun picking out a movie together, you like the way he looks at you. That kind of thing.
And if you play your cards right, forty years later you find yourself married to someone who forgives you for blaming her for losing the remote control for the TV when it winds up you were sitting on it for the last twenty minutes.
The Lord be with you. Courtship is a dance, and finding the right partner, and being the right partner, are great adventures. The ultimate reality show.
One of my favorite quotes. Dating is sometimes like that. Heck, life is sometimes like that.
I hope I am not one of them. If I come across that way, please forgive.
Regards,
Shodan