So my grandmother that was supposed to watch my kids disappeared on me. Shes a 40ish minute drive away when we got her( brought her to our house) she pitched a fit said she didnt want to do it anymore and left while i was still at work. She was gone before i got home.
Now....
My grandma keeps calling me non-stop. I tell my mom that i dont answer bc if I do Im telling her she's wrong for leaving how she did and she can't watch my kids period. My mom said dont say that. Tha ts rude and that these are your kids and you cant get mad.
I said true but I WAS PAYING HER TO WATCH THEM. Not only that but she AGREED to do this. My mom said you know your grandma isnt reliable you didnt get blindsided. I always have a plan B ( i tried her dad at first he flaked. Almost lost my job. Tried my bro it was too much my mom said it was too much for him and i need to use my granny. Tried her and this happened. )
I want to do daycare but they fear monger say theyll be abused or molested. Im not being responsible doing that... If anything happens to them i shouldnt be able to live with myself. But the main reason i cant is because i work long hours and Id need someone to pick them up and i know no one would bc they dont agree with daycare.
Then Friday-- my dad argued with me how my kids are my responsibility He doesnt want to watch them bc he wants to read and his time costs. But when i mention daycare he gets mad saying im not being a good mom putting them in harms way then says.. I cant quit my job to watch my kids either bc the financial responsibility falls back on them. ( im not quitting)
Its so annoying. Its like im doing my best... and i have to take so much bs. I dont feel like i should hold my tongue with my grandma bc she was dead wrong.. I think my mom has a high tolerance for my grannys bs bc she treated them terribly. My mom said she'd have to find her mom alot ( just a snippet but my grandma wasnt a good mom)
Long story short..
Am I wrong? ( my plan since im working full-time now basically.. Save and get my own place and put them in daycare)
Now....
My grandma keeps calling me non-stop. I tell my mom that i dont answer bc if I do Im telling her she's wrong for leaving how she did and she can't watch my kids period. My mom said dont say that. Tha ts rude and that these are your kids and you cant get mad.
I said true but I WAS PAYING HER TO WATCH THEM. Not only that but she AGREED to do this. My mom said you know your grandma isnt reliable you didnt get blindsided. I always have a plan B ( i tried her dad at first he flaked. Almost lost my job. Tried my bro it was too much my mom said it was too much for him and i need to use my granny. Tried her and this happened. )
I want to do daycare but they fear monger say theyll be abused or molested. Im not being responsible doing that... If anything happens to them i shouldnt be able to live with myself. But the main reason i cant is because i work long hours and Id need someone to pick them up and i know no one would bc they dont agree with daycare.
Then Friday-- my dad argued with me how my kids are my responsibility He doesnt want to watch them bc he wants to read and his time costs. But when i mention daycare he gets mad saying im not being a good mom putting them in harms way then says.. I cant quit my job to watch my kids either bc the financial responsibility falls back on them. ( im not quitting)
Its so annoying. Its like im doing my best... and i have to take so much bs. I dont feel like i should hold my tongue with my grandma bc she was dead wrong.. I think my mom has a high tolerance for my grannys bs bc she treated them terribly. My mom said she'd have to find her mom alot ( just a snippet but my grandma wasnt a good mom)
Long story short..
Am I wrong? ( my plan since im working full-time now basically.. Save and get my own place and put them in daycare)