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I cannot love people as myself

Discussion in 'Deeper Fellowship' started by LayHong_Loves_Christ, Nov 25, 2021.

  1. LayHong_Loves_Christ

    LayHong_Loves_Christ Member

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    I get angry when offended, and hate people.
    But God wants me to love my enemy.
    Very difficult.
    I do love God and trust Him,
    But I can't fulfill His commandment.
    Will God blame me?

    I do say Sorry to God.
     
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  2. Palmfever

    Palmfever Well-Known Member Supporter

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    I have held that to love someone is easier than liking them. To me love is doing the right thing sometimes in spite of our feelings. To like someone is to enjoy their company, to take pleasure in their presence. I know people I pray for and truly love, being around them however, is challenging at times and I prefer to avoid them. 'If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all people.' Romans, 12:18
    You can love them. You don't have to hang with them. The fact that you brought this up is evidence that you care.
    'The rebuke of a friend is better than the flattery of an enemy.'
     
  3. SANTOSO

    SANTOSO Well-Known Member

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    Beloved one, God’s commandments still STAND.

    For this is what we have heard:
    For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, -Matthew 6:14
    but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. -Matthew 6:15

    Also, consider the parable of unforgiving servant in Matthew 18:21-35.

    Beloved one,remember what our Lord have said:
    But Jesus looked at them and said, "With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." -Matthew 19:26

    Beloved one, since with God all things are possible, it is possible for you to love your enemies when you are with God.

    Beloved one, perceive and understand what has been written:

    The LORD is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid? -Psalms 27:1

    so beloved one, we shall not fear to love our enemies and we shall not be afraid, not because we rely on our strength but we rely on the Lord’s strength— For He is the stronghold of our lives !

    Beloved ones, pray :
    Father in Heaven
    I believe Your grace
    Your abounding grace
    Your overflowing grace
    Your grace is available to me when I meet difficult people,such as .... in every situation that I am involved in.
    Your grace is available to me.
    And grace also works by faith.
    And I have faith that You will bring me through this;
    Father in Heaven, You are going to help them turn around
    in Jesus name I pray
    Amen


    Thank You, Adonai, for You are good and fair.
    Thank You, Adonai, that You teach me how to live in Your way; You are gracious and merciful.
    Grant me strength, Adonai, to show mercy to those who make my life difficult.
    Give me discernments and discretions on how to bear with those who make my life difficult.
    Give me strength to restrain so that I will not be angry with those who make my life difficult.
    Grant me, Adonai, to live for Your sake, to show abundance of grace to those who make my life difficult;
    that they may see that You live in me.
    Thank God for chastening me and pruning me; may in this situation, You cause me to bear fruits of righteousness, that can bring delights to You.
    Amen

    To God the Father be thanksgiving through Christ. Amen
     
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  4. Soyeong

    Soyeong Well-Known Member

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    Having the right perspective makes it easier.

    Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

    Part of learning how to love our enemy is recognizing that other people are not truly our enemy. In order to work our way up to loving our enemy, we should first start by learning how to love our brothers and sisters in Christ who are difficult to love, and have the perspective of thanking God for giving you those opportunities to teach you how to love when it is difficult. There is nothing inherently wrong with getting angry, but we should be careful not to sin in our anger (Ephesians 4:26).
     
  5. Sunshinee777

    Sunshinee777 Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Nobody can.
    That’s why God was so merciful that He poured His love in us, so we could share that love for our enemies. We pour God’s love for our enemies.
     
  6. IWalkAlone

    IWalkAlone Well-Known Member

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    We were God's enemy but He loved us. I can't love like him either, but I lean on His grace, humbly hanging it on the cross.
     
  7. aiki

    aiki Regular Member

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    It's impossible for me to love my enemy as God calls me to do. Impossible! I've tried. And failed badly many times.

    But God doesn't want me to love my enemies in my own power, with my own human love. He wants to love people through me; He wants me to be a vessel, a conduit, through which He moves, expressing Himself, His love, to others.

    This only happens as I submit myself to God throughout every day, yielding myself entirely to His will and way, often many times a day. As I do, God fills me with Himself, with His Spirit, and from the Spirit flows the love of God out of me toward others.

    So long as I refuse to live in constant submission to God, I can never love my enemies as He has called me to do.

    Will God blame you for failing to love as He has commanded you to? Yes. Such failure is a sign of a life not submitted to God and such a life is sinful. If one is not submitted always to God, one is in rebellion to Him, which is sin.

    Saying "Sorry" to God is not enough - especially if you know you will be saying "Sorry" again and again. God wants to change you so that you don't have to be feeling sorry for your bad living. But He will only do so as long as you allow Him, by your submission to Him, to do so. God's not going to force you to change; you must be agreeing to such change all throughout each day by your yielding yourself to God's will and way. As you do, the ability to love your enemies will grow within you and saying "Sorry" to God will stop.
     
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  8. RickardoHolmes

    RickardoHolmes Active Member

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    Perhaps you do not really Love Yourself as you might believe either?
    Consider this: If others anger you so, then why do you allow them to do so?

    Read this

    Nobody Has the Power to Upset You

    It sums the idea up in few words and in great depth
    Peace and Love to you
     
  9. angelsaroundme

    angelsaroundme Well-Known Member

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    For me it helps to remember that I'm a sinner too.
     
  10. ChristServant

    ChristServant Active Member

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    One of the things as Christians we are told to do is have self control over our emotions.

    We now live in a world where we are told to be offended at everything, this is not from GOD but from satan and is divisive and destructive.

    Some scripture below

    19For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.

    But he who hates his brother is in darkness and walks in darkness, and does not know where he is going, because the darkness has blinded his eyes.

    20If someone says, "I love God," and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? 21And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also.

    I pray you find the peace of GOD in your heart.

    Peace be to all those in the Body of Christ.
     
  11. LayHong_Loves_Christ

    LayHong_Loves_Christ Member

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    I wonder my heart will change right now?
    I need to be transformed into a new immortal body so that I can received God's love fully.
     
  12. BeingThere

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    C.S. Lewis wrote that to act as if you love someone, ie: doing good things for them, makes you like them more, and the more you like someone, the more you do good things for them. Likewise, the more you hate someone, the less you want to do good for them, and the less you want to do good for them, the more you will hate them.

    It is a vicious circle, so turn around and go the other direction. I promise you it will get easier.
     
  13. LayHong_Loves_Christ

    LayHong_Loves_Christ Member

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    Everyone is evil and sinful, why I want to love people?
    How to love?
    Just a thinking in my mind?
    "I think I love people", is it?
     
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